Boy Erased

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HD. The gay son of a Baptist pastor who is pressured into attending a conversion therapy program.
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Joel Edgerton
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Lucas HedgesNicole KidmanJoel Edgerton
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Drama
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Joe AlwynXavier DolanTroye SivanCherry JonesFleaRussell Crowe
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Kerry Kohansky-RobertsSteve GolinJoel Edgerton
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Universal Pictures
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4.5 out of 5 stars

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Steven SmithReviewed in the United States on November 11, 2018
5.0 out of 5 stars
Amazing
Saw this in theaters and it was such a touching story that most people have never even thought about. I cried because I am all to familiar with a lot of the situations in this film and they were portrayed perfectly. This movie should open some eye to the subject of conversion therapy and what the really means. Trying to fix something that’s not broken.
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Diane B. SmithReviewed in the United States on November 19, 2018
5.0 out of 5 stars
Movie Brings Light to a Dangerous Practice
I'm reading Gerrard Conley's memoir and saw this movie a couple of nights ago. It's so good. The subject matter is difficult as the movie unmasks the cruelty involved in conversion therapy. It's hard to accept these type places still exist, but they do and states need to put an end to this horrifically abusive practice by making it illegal. Parents misguided by religious leaders and a literal interpretation of the Bible out of context should not be able to psychologically damage their child(ren) due to their state of being/sexual orientation. It's abuse and leads to depression and possibly suicide. I'm thankful this young man's mother had a change of heart or this story could have ended very badly.

Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman, and Russell Crowe all give great performances. I also learned of Troye Sivan through his well played role in this movie and have been listening to his music -- just beautiful!
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Sariah (Susan) Hyatt ShepherdReviewed in the United States on February 17, 2019
1.0 out of 5 stars
Just read my review.
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I gave this movie a one star to capture the attention of the viewer who possibly might be considering renting this.

Let me start off by saying that I am someone who went through a similiar kind of conversion therapy when I was a teenager. However, it was not because of homosexuality but because I started getting into drugs at the age of 15 when I was in high school and my mother thought this kind of place would help me. I am here to tell you that this kind of conversion therapy is the same kind of crap that happens in different kinds of things such as a drug regab, etc...and it does not change anyone. Its abuse!! I wasnt a homosexual. I was a young, 15 yr old girl who wanted to be loved and I was looking for love in all the wrong places. The drugs were the symptom of my loliness and pain. For me, this movie wasnt about homesexuality, but “fake it until you make it”. I too, along with many others, had to do the same talk or none of us would get out. At least his Mom picked him up when he cried out. My mom didnt. The only thing it taught me was not to go back to doing drugs because I didnt want to go back there and I knew my mother would send me back if I did, so this movie was a trigger for my anger in many ways.

Its now been 35 years, and Ive not gone back to drugs since, but it wasnt because of conversion therapy. God changed me on his own. I changed because I didnt want my sin to seperate me from God and I did not want to spend an eternity without Him.

I cant still remember this place as if it were yesterday. Take my advise. Love the sinner even though you may hate the sin. Let go, love and let God. Im living proof. Lastly, we all for short of the Glory of God. Rom. 3:23
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C. BagelsReviewed in the United States on November 19, 2018
5.0 out of 5 stars
Must see!
This was an excellent movie depicting the very real harm that gay conversation therapy has on LGBT people. It also shows how badly this practice reflects on the Christian community as a whole, even though many (most) Christians do not support this kind of therapy. Hopefully this movie will open a lot of eyes to the practice and save lives in the process. I just wish it had a wider theatrical release.
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DMReviewed in the United States on January 2, 2019
1.0 out of 5 stars
Maybe no one will listen, but I CANNOT stay silent on this
When those with money, influence and talent want to make a statement, one can expect them to make it effectively. “Boy Erased” is a good example of this. It has been carefully crafted to be highly convincing, on both emotional and intellectual levels.

The makers of this film have something they’re opposed to -- namely “gay conversion therapy” -- and they’ve set out to get as many other people to oppose it as they can. They’ve done this by presenting it in the worst light possible. The problem is, they’ve only been able to do this by lying about it, blatantly and shamelessly. Of course, it would be harder for them to get away with this if they weren’t building on misinformation and misconceptions that are already widespread.

You’re supposed to be horrified by the information, given in the end credits, that “this practice is still legal in 30 states.” But what actually happens in those 30 states bears NO resemblance to what’s portrayed in this film. And what actually happens has no reason to be banned, or even discouraged, in ANY state.

The film’s plot may have some basis in a real person’s actual experience (certainly many religious parents react inappropriately to a child's homosexuality), but to say it doesn’t represent “conversion therapy” in general would be a gross understatement. Actual therapists and actual Christians would be the first to oppose what's portrayed in the movie, for they would understand its harmfulness as well as anyone.

As with all other opposition to “conversion therapy,” it’s assumed in this film that it’s ALWAYS done against the subjects’ will. The reality is that therapists would not try to treat anyone against their will; besides being unethical, it would be counterproductive. (Ever heard the phrase “they have to WANT to change?” That applies here too.) We’re told at the end of the film that “thousands are HELD in programs like this.” Held?? Wrong. The reality is that thousands are seeking treatment at their own initiative.

As with all other opposition to “conversion therapy,” it’s assumed in this film that it involves bullying, torture, shaming, abuse, and so on. The reality: actual therapy is just… therapy. It involves helpfully and compassionately dealing with the issue by getting to its roots in a given individual. (And, to whatever extent any inborn tendency ever comes into play, there are ALWAYS roots -- in a given person’s environment, circumstances and experiences.)

Typically, for something coming from Hollywood (and popular media in general), this film is massively dishonest about homosexuality in general, portraying it in a rosy light that has little to do with what a given young man is actually likely to encounter upon being drawn into the “gay” life. (Statistics involving AIDS, even among those in “committed relationships,” should alone be enough to lead a society to encourage men to get out of such a life.) And, typically, it’s massively dishonest about Christians in general, portraying them as dangerous wackos who are rankly hypocritical to boot. (If you think such portrayals are reasonable, you’re just demonstrating their effectiveness.)

And, of course, it’s assumed in this film (as in much of society) that same-sex attraction is inborn and fixed. The reality is that recovery from same-sex attraction has a success rate favorably comparable to, say, that of recovery from alcoholism. I can personally attest to what I’ve seen in the lives of men who have succeeded. (Sure, some have not succeeded, but that’s true of anything so challenging.) I can also attest to what I’ve seen in the lives of those who stayed in the “gay” life: deep inner conflict, deep denial, anger at God, never finding peace, and (for some) disease and early death. And that, ultimately, is what the makers of this film are promoting.

A realistic film about the subject at hand would give the exact opposite impression from this film. It would generate anger against those who encourage homosexuality, not those who discourage it.

Call me "hateful" and "bigoted" if that makes you feel better. I just don't want to encourage people to stay stuck in a lifestyle that demonstrably does a great deal of harm. Somehow, that doesn't sound like "hate" or "bigotry" to me.
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DVM95Reviewed in the United States on March 19, 2019
5.0 out of 5 stars
A Must Watch Film
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The kudos must begin with the bravery of Garrard Conley for opeining up and sharing some very private moments and feelings in his memoir, "Boy Erased". Then HUGE props to Joel Edgerton for becoming so impassioned with the project to write a screenplay, produce, direct, AND act in a movie version of Garrard's story. Nicole Kidman cements her status as a Class-A actress in this role. Russell Crowe (of whom I am not usually a fan) literally transformed into Garrard's father. Some fun appearances by Troye Sivan, Xavier Dolan, and Flea (yes, THAT Flea!). And last, but not least, is the emotional lead performance by Lucas Hedges who captured all of the nuanced feelings one goes through on this particular journey.
My prayer is that with the high profile status of this film that everyone will finally see the sad and distored reality of "Conversion Therapy" which unfortunately IS alive and kicking in the U.S.A.
At times, this film was personally difficult to watch as it brought back MANY memories of self-hatred, embarrassment, praying/fasting to change, feelings of letting down my family...my church...my God. But fear not! As in my life, this story too has a happy ending as Jared comes to peace with his identity.
"Boy Erased" is a testament to one's inner strength.....the unconditional love of a mother...and the hope that family bonds CAN be stronger than any other. The film gracefully portrays a set of parents who unknowingly (perhaps somewhat ignorantly) send their son for "help" out of the best intentions. But as the saying goes, "The road to hell is paved with good intentions".
Sadly, not every story ends as happily as mine and Garrard's.....so until that day comes, films and memoirs, and stories like this remain so VERY important to share!
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Robert ElfordReviewed in the United States on March 2, 2019
5.0 out of 5 stars
Timely and importantly relevant.
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The acting performances of the four major players were superb and very realistic. The story is one that has been happening, in various ways for hundreds of years and is still happening due to the ignorance of the various churches and their teachings. You cannot turn a homosexual into a heterosexual any more than you can turn a heterosexual into a homosexual. That is an absolute fact. The torment and punishments inflicted upon the unfortunate gay person are, to say the least, barbaric and may cause a mental illness that may lead to suicide, and the victim is sometimes the son of a 'so-called' man of the faith, or a God fearing adherent of a particular religion. this story is a very sad one, but not as sad as the real life stories, some of which I have been witness to. I can't say I 'enjoyed' this film, but I was incredibly moved to tears by it, and I would recommend it to every parent and every person involved in any religion. The pain and mental torment inflicted upon a 'victim' in one of these circumstances is downright hateful.
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anonymousReviewed in the United States on September 2, 2019
5.0 out of 5 stars
an excellent expose on self righteous bigotry
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I was able to endure this story of utter stupidity by watching it as one would specimens of unconscious humans. if that sounds harsh, well, it is just simple fact to me. I cant believe what was de riguer in the 60's (institutionalization, shock therapy and the like, not to say years before that which included imprisonment) is still going on under the pretense of God. And i mean pretense. Well, it probably will go on and on. If its not Jews, then Blacks, if not Blacks, then Arabs, if not Arabs, then Irish Catholics, and on and on. It is the utter unconsciousness of projecting onto one's human brother and sister one's own shadowy self.. Praise the Lord!
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