Kindle Price: $3.49

You've subscribed to ! We will preorder your items within 24 hours of when they become available. When new books are released, we'll charge your default payment method for the lowest price available during the pre-order period.

Update your device or payment method, cancel individual pre-orders or your subscription at
Your Memberships & Subscriptions

There was an error. We were unable to process your subscription due to an error. Please refresh and try again.

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All by [Don Barlow]

Follow the Author

Don Barlow

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All Kindle Edition

by Don Barlow (Author) Format: Kindle Edition

1,276 ratings

See all formats and editions

Price

New from

Used from

Kindle

"Please retry"

$3.49

—

Hardcover

"Please retry"

$26.99

$22.13

$16.49

Paperback

"Please retry"

$11.99

$7.40

Kindle
$3.49 Read with Our Free App
Hardcover
$26.99

Other new and used from $16.49
Paperback
$11.99

Other new and used from $7.40

Great on Kindle

Great Experience. Great Value.

Enjoy a great reading experience when you buy the Kindle edition of this book. Learn more about Great on Kindle, available in select categories.

Enjoy a great reading experience when you buy the Kindle edition of this book.

Break free from the lies and manipulation that are keeping you captive

You’re positive you saw a flirty text from another woman on your husband’s phone. Yet, when you confront him, he tells you you’re imagining things and being paranoid.

A co-worker sarcastically mentions that you’re not contributing enough to the big project. When you get offended, they say they were just joking and that you’re too sensitive.

Your mother constantly criticizes your weight. When you bring up her comments around other people, she denies ever saying them and says you are making up stories.

Have you repeatedly found yourself in these types of situations where you end up doubting yourself?

They might have occurred with different people, in different circumstances, but the way they make you feel is the same.

Your feelings are trivialized, your thoughts are manipulated, and your reality is denied.

When this is done to you repeatedly, you begin to feel confused or even crazy. You are left questioning your own reality and sanity.

These are classic signs that you’re being gaslighted, and it’s something to take very seriously.

Gaslighting is a covert form of abuse that affects your confidence and trust in yourself, which the abuser then takes advantage of to keep you under their control.

Whether it’s a spouse, parent, or co-worker, it’s hard to break loose from the grip of a gaslighting manipulator.

You will need to know how gaslighters operate, how their behavior is affecting you, and how you can reclaim your truth.

In Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, you will discover:

The sneaky tactics gaslighters employ that catch you off-guard and make you more vulnerable to their exploitation
How to hold on to your grip on reality, despite the gaslighter’s efforts to undermine it
Powerful ways to respond to gaslighters, block their attacks, and take back control of the conversation
Why self-care is a critical component in coping with abuse, especially if you need to regularly interact with a gaslighter
The shift in mindset to help you finally gain the courage to escape an abusive relationship
What you need to do after leaving a gaslighting relationship to make sure you don’t fall into the same cycle again
Why you shouldn’t expect any closure from your abuser, and why you can still move on without it
How to rebuild your sense of self after years of being torn down by others
And much more.
Acknowledging that you’re being abused is the first step towards recovery.
After years of gaslighting, you may be so used to it that you no longer recognize this is not a normal way to live.
You might believe that there’s no way out, or you can’t imagine life without the one who’s manipulating you.
But if you truly want to be able to live life on your own terms, cutting yourself off from the source of your pain is essential.
It won’t happen overnight, and it will take committed effort, but you can feel like yourself again – the person you used to be… the person you’re meant to be.
If you want to take back control of your life and regain your sanity and self-worth, then scroll up and click the “Add to Cart” button right now.

Print length

178 pages
Language

English
Sticky notes

On Kindle Scribe
Publication date

February 28, 2021
File size

1606 KB
Page Flip

Enabled
Word Wise

Enabled
Enhanced typesetting

Enabled
See all details

Debbie Mirza
3,423
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $10.29
Don Barlow
714
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $8.12
Shahida Arabi
3,248
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $9.99
Amy Marlow-MaCoy LPC
1,494
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $9.14
Dr.Theresa J. Covert
579
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $8.60
Linda Hill
158
Kindle Edition
1 offer from $4.98

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Many people that are stuck in a toxic relationship, whether romantic or familial, don't even realize it. They have come to believe that the way they are treated is normal. In order to break the cycle, victims need to be educated on the tactics, techniques, and manipulations used by those around them. By recognizing these tactics, they can finally admit to needing help.

In Gaslighting& Narcissistic Abuse Recovery by Don Barlow, we are treated to a wide variety of eye-opening information. This book focuses on the tendencies of people with a narcissistic personality and how they manipulate those around them. The book starts with a discussion of narcissism and the variable spectrum of a condition known as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Barlow then focuses the rest of his book on one particular technique those with NPD use: gaslighting. Within this technique, Barlow elaborates on the stages of gaslighting, how gaslighting can be seen outside romantic relationships, what the impacts are, and how one can respond/recover.

I loved how the book used many different real-life examples to help victims recognize a situation they may be in. Whether it is through the phrases a victim might hear, or a manipulator's constant need for control, I appreciated how Barlow highlighted the abnormality of these behaviours. The book's message and theme were approachable, accessible, and easily understood. What I liked the most, however, was the personal touch that the book brought to the pages. The book opened (and closed) with the author's own experiences with these kinds of relationships. First, he discussed the treatment he received growing up and how that affected his romantic relationships later on. In addition to Barlow's experiences, various other victims told their stories as well. This helps the reader realize that they are not alone. The last thing I'll mention here is that the book isn't simply for victims. I see this as an excellent resource for family members and friends that are looking to help someone being manipulated through gaslighting.

There was only one small thing that I disliked about this book. The book's main focus was intended to be on gaslighting and NPD. Although I completely acknowledge that there is a lot of crossover between other forms of abuse and gaslighting, I had the impression that the specific focus waned significantly as the book concluded. The final chapter, entitled "Recovering from Abuse", could have been applied to almost all types of abusive relationships and techniques. This remark, however, is very minor and could even be construed as a positive point for some readers seeking additional resources.

This book was full of great information. It identified key aspects of NPD and gaslighting to which I was previously ignorant, and I can definitely see it being a priceless reference for those suffering in a manipulative relationship. For those reasons alone, I fully believe that this book deserves a perfect four out of four stars. The minor issue mentioned above wasn't enough to remove a star from the rating. The ideal audience for this book is evidently those that think they may be in a manipulative relationship, but it would be just as useful for friends and family wishing to provide assistance to a victim."Officially reviewed by Online Book Club

Product details

ASIN ‏ : ‎ B08XR1LT1D
Publication date ‏ : ‎ February 28, 2021
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 1606 KB
Simultaneous device usage ‏ : ‎ Unlimited
Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
Print length ‏ : ‎ 178 pages

Best Sellers Rank: #88,023 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #31 in Self-Help for Abuse
- #71 in Interpersonal Relations (Kindle Store)
- #110 in Dysfunctional Relationships

Customer Reviews:
1,276 ratings

Brief content visible, double tap to read full content.

Full content visible, double tap to read brief content.

Videos

Help others learn more about this product by uploading a video!

Upload your video

About the author

Follow authors to get new release updates, plus improved recommendations.

Don Barlow

Brief content visible, double tap to read full content.

Full content visible, double tap to read brief content.

Don Barlow is the author of several self-help books; he wishes to share his experience and gained knowledge with readers to help those with similar experiences to:

• Know they are not alone,

• Identify their symptoms, and

• Take back control of their lives

• Achieve a sense of freedom and self-worth.

Growing up with a manipulative and abusive parent, he spent many years dealing with mood swings, anxiety, panic attacks and other symptoms associated with abuse.

Recognizing his symptoms were those of gaslighting and PTSD, he began to research these topics and others, and through years of research and conducting case studies, he was able to learn valuable strategies for coping with and healing from his trauma.

Customer reviews

4.6 out of 5

1,276 global ratings

5 star		77%
4 star		14%
3 star		6%
2 star		1%
1 star		2%

How customer reviews and ratings work

Reviews with images

See all customer images

Top reviews from the United States

There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.

Lisa Ann

This book was very helpful for my recovery

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on January 18, 2023

Verified Purchase

This book was very very good. I was married for 24 years to a man I loved very much. I ended my marriage in 2008. The love bomb described by this author, was exactly my situation. After several months of being married, my handsome,loving, successful husband, started to change. I will never forget the first time he gaslighted me. I was 22 years old just married. I came from a very loving Italian Family, so I was shocked when we were making dinner together, my husband criticized me over and over how I was not cutting the onion correctly. He didn’t kindly try to show me his way of cutting an onion, like my brother or parents would have done. He just made me feel like I didn’t know what I was doing, put me down several times and I started to cry. He didn’t seemed phased that he hurt my feelings. He didn’t care that I walked away and sat on the couch crying. He finished making dinner and acted like nothing happened. This is just one of many many incidents that became worse, as his alcoholism progressed , and turned to physical abuse over the years. This book has helped me very much. I have flashbacks and dreams of his gaslighting ways. I kept this to myself for years, and the only safe way out of this marriage was to share with a few close friends and family. These wonderful people knew I was not crazy, they helped me file for a restraining order/serve him with divorce papers ,he never ever expected from me. I have been in professional counseling since 2008. I read this book in one night. This author especially helped me when he wrote about how to practice radical forgiveness, reminding me to cut ties with my past, and stay strong enough to keep moving forward, knowing everything that happened in that marriage was not my fault, I am not crazy, ignorant or helpless. Thanks to this author Don Barlow and my great family/friends, I know I am smart and a good person. I will save this book to read again in the future.

14 people found this helpful

Helpful

Amazon Customer

Important Read

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on February 26, 2023

Verified Purchase

This book had be crying while reading it. I was able to highlight things and write notes about my experiences that were covered in the book. Very eye opening and informational and I am so glad I read it. It was able to help me navigate through my own emotionally abusive relationship.

2 people found this helpful

Helpful

Thomas Pranio

This book had me having flashbacks....

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on February 15, 2023

Verified Purchase

Okay, I can't say it was not an enjoyable read. The author knows his subject and well... now I know it much better. Well written. Informative. Great job!

Helpful

Denise L, Torrance

So Very Interesting (and scary)

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on January 31, 2023

Verified Purchase

Self respect and confidence are key to battling this issue in a close relationship. I wish our schools could provide some information about gas lighting. Might save a lot of emotional devastation.

One person found this helpful

Helpful

Too Tall

Interesting, insightful, a little too woke

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 7, 2022

Verified Purchase

In-depth and thoughtful evaluation of gas lighting and narcissism. Clear descriptions of the tactics and methods used as well as how damaging it can be to be a victim. The author is knowledgeable and the book well researched.

Actually, this is my first review and I hope the author takes it constructively. I could see the book was likely written to address personal issues in the writer's past. I expect most of the people reading the book, like me, are looking to address something in our lives also. I would have enjoyed and rated the book a 5 if It were written for a wider audience. I felt l this book was written for 20 somethings which minimizes the scope and importance of the subject and the book. What you have to say is important. Your book has a lot of great information. Stay on topic, avoid woke jargon you were taught in liberal arts school, write for a wider, mature audience, and most importantly, don't give personal comments on potentially political or hot buttons outside your area of expertise. If people don't agree with you on your off topic opinion, you risk losing credibility on the subject of the book.

44 people found this helpful

Helpful

Jennifer Kontny

Know a Woman with NPD? – This Book Might Fill in Some Gaps in What You Know

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on July 17, 2021

Verified Purchase

I found this book clear, well-reasoned, and highly relatable. I have women in my family who struggle with NPD, and this book has been the most useful text, offering examples of how NPD presents and, more importantly, how to respond to the abusive behaviors of those with NPD.

While the book is helpful in understanding people with NPD of any gender, the author's personal experience with a (cis female) mother and partners living with NPD seems to have informed his richer understanding of what this disorder might look like (and how it may present uniquely) in (American) women.

I've read a handful of similar books on NPD, and all have tended to give examples that feel more "masculine". I understand that this is because the disorder is most often diagnosed in men; however, that has sometimes made it difficult for me to find those texts as relatable or "on target" with the ways NPD abuse has occurred in my particular family.

On the other hand, I've found that books on NPD that explicitly center gender (e.g. talking about narcissistic mothering, for example) often spend too much time emphasizing gender at the expense of covering specific tactics of abuse and strategies for response. So, until reading this book, I have not found a text that so clearly speaks to how NPD has functioned in my life. At this point, I would say it is the most helpful book I've read on the subject.

Some of the other reviewers have mentioned that the book is too rooted in American culture, but I assume that's true of any book about mental health – especially a text that relies on case studies and examples (as our behavior is always shaped by the specifics of our culture and manifests within and through cultural contexts). I was confused by those reviews but, to be fair, I am American so perhaps the "Americanness" of the examples wasn't jarring for me in the way it might be for Brits or other global English readers.

On whole, I found this book perfectly balanced – a casual, relatable, and useful read that I'm glad I purchased. I'm confident that the strategies outlined will prove helpful in identifying patterns of abuse and moving forward.

4 people found this helpful

Helpful

seithy mercado

Eye opener

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on January 22, 2023

Verified Purchase

This book has given me all the confirmation I needed. It is an amazing book and hard to put down

8 people found this helpful

Helpful

Top reviews from other countries

Eseer

A very light introduction to gaslighting & narcissim

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on July 8, 2021

Verified Purchase

This book is not as interesting as I was expecting. It just gives a brief synopsis of gaslighting and NPD. I felt it doesn't go enough into what gaslighting & narcissism disorder is, but rather skimmed over the subject very lightly. The book is easy to read, but makes many references to an American way of life and wording. I've watched many free videos on YouTube, and bought other books which offered much, much more information and delved deeper into NPD, without being too heavy. This book just didn't hit that same mark. As for the abuse recovery, that too was very light information. I'm recovering from the abuse of a narcissist, and could only partially relate to issues raised in this book and how to deal with them. People who have experienced the negative behaviour of NPD abusers, need to understand more deeply NPD characteristics and how to deal with them, plus how to if they choose to, leave them. I wouldn't recommend this book, but instead books by Louise Hay The Power Within You, which I've found to be extremely useful, also therapy has done wonders for me. Whatever you do to aid recovery, let them go and don't look back. Work on finding yourself again!

24 people found this helpful

MS CR BAXTER

Best book on Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery I’ve read

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on November 6, 2021

Verified Purchase

This book is a must for anyone in relationship with someone who is controlling, manipulating (this can be so subtly done you arent aware this is happening) disrespecting, insulting. Gives vital information exposing Narc’s tactics & strategies, gave me understanding of lots of psychological attacks I hadnt been aware of. An eyeopener. I decided to go No Contact. Book gives lots of advice on safety & security measures. Author’s intent is not to save your relationship but to save YOU. Gaslighting works to erode Victim’s SANITY. Need to focus on building yourself up again. In my experience gaslighting & narcissistic abuse is Psychological Warfare against your reality, your sanity. Your counter-Psychological Warfare is to get help from therapist/coach who understands it, make yourself top priority, not your abuser’s needs. This book helped me greatly. Read books on it, YouTube videos about it. Be informed, educated about it, learn to protect yourself. I highly recommend this book. Hide it from the Narc or leave it with a friend to read when youre out of sight of him/her. This is for both men & women

18 people found this helpful

Kindle Customer

Brilliant informative book

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on June 15, 2021

Verified Purchase

After 13 years of extreme npd with my female partner this book had me in tears. Could be a life changing book for me. Thought I was alone as a man but completely opened my eyes to this. Thank you Don.

16 people found this helpful

Ava

Self healing and actualisation

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on December 3, 2022

Verified Purchase

Passed this book on to a friend, after reading it myself. It felt like a slightly less lonelier world, reading about someone who had difficulties with a narcissistic parent growing up. And then being drawn to toxic relationships, I may have even noticed parts of myself in this book, but it opened me up even more for my willingness to learn and change. Not
To become the person that raised me. So thank you Don.

6 people found this helpful

Bead86

A must

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on July 14, 2022

Verified Purchase

Forget all the other books about narcissist an gas lighting. This book has all the answers. It’s nice to have a blokes perspective on it as most books are aimed at woman. Don’t waste you’re money on other books this one is a must

Amazon Music Stream millions of songs	Amazon Advertising Find, attract, and engage customers	6pm Score deals on fashion brands	AbeBooks Books, art & collectibles	ACX Audiobook Publishing Made Easy	Sell on Amazon Start a Selling Account

Amazon Business Everything For Your Business	Amazon Fresh Groceries & More Right To Your Door	AmazonGlobal Ship Orders Internationally	Home Services Experienced Pros Happiness Guarantee	Amazon Ignite Sell your original Digital Educational Resources	Amazon Web Services Scalable Cloud Computing Services

Audible Listen to Books & Original Audio Performances	Book Depository Books With Free Delivery Worldwide	Box Office Mojo Find Movie Box Office Data	ComiXology Thousands of Digital Comics	DPReview Digital Photography	Fabric Sewing, Quilting & Knitting

Goodreads Book reviews & recommendations	IMDb Movies, TV & Celebrities	IMDbPro Get Info Entertainment Professionals Need	Kindle Direct Publishing Indie Digital & Print Publishing Made Easy	Amazon Photos Unlimited Photo Storage Free With Prime	Prime Video Direct Video Distribution Made Easy

Shopbop Designer Fashion Brands	Amazon Warehouse Great Deals on Quality Used Products	Whole Foods Market America’s Healthiest Grocery Store	Woot! Deals and Shenanigans	Zappos Shoes & Clothing	Ring Smart Home Security Systems

eero WiFi Stream 4K Video in Every Room	Blink Smart Security for Every Home	Neighbors App Real-Time Crime & Safety Alerts	Amazon Subscription Boxes Top subscription boxes – right to your door	PillPack Pharmacy Simplified	Amazon Renewed Like-new products you can trust

Buy for others

Buying and sending eBooks to others

Follow the Author

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All Kindle Edition

Break free from the lies and manipulation that are keeping you captive

If you want to take back control of your life and regain your sanity and self-worth, then scroll up and click the “Add to Cart” button right now.

Customers who viewed this item also viewed

Editorial Reviews

Review

Product details

Videos

About the author

Don Barlow

Customer reviews

Reviews with images

Top reviews from the United States

There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.

Top reviews from other countries