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Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts Kindle Edition
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“A must-have resource for anyone looking to get control of their thoughts.”—Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
CHRISTIAN BOOK AWARD FINALIST • NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY COSMOPOLITAN
Are your thoughts holding you captive? I’ll never be good enough. Other people have better lives than I do. God couldn’t really love me. Jennie Allen knows what it’s like to swirl in a spiral of destructive thoughts, but she also knows we don’t have to stay stuck in toxic thinking patterns.
As she discovered in her own life, God built a way for us to escape that downward spiral. Freedom comes when we refuse to be victims to our thoughts and realize we have already been equipped with power from God to fight and win the war for our minds.
In Get Out of Your Head, Jennie inspires and equips us to transform our emotions, our outlook, and even our circumstances by taking control of our thoughts. Our enemy is determined to get in our heads to make us feel helpless, overwhelmed, and incapable of making a difference for the kingdom of God. But when we submit our minds to Christ, the promises and goodness of God flood our lives in remarkable ways.
It starts in your head. And from there, the possibilities are endless.
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“You’re going to find a boatload of love and truth in these pages. This book won’t just change the way you think; it will alter the way you live.”—Bob Goff, New York Times best-selling author of Love Does and Everybody, Always
“This book is a beautiful reminder that God is at work in all the messiness of our minds. God beckons us to get out of our heads and practice daily presence and rest with Him.”—Latasha Morrison, author and founder of Be the Bridge
“You know those books you buy twenty copies of and then forcefully give to everyone you know? Yeah, this is one of those books. Hands down. Powerful. Prophetic. Necessary.”—Jefferson Bethke, New York Times best-selling author of Jesus > Religion
“I know from personal experience just how easily our thoughts try to hijack our faith and throw us into a negative spiral. Get Out of Your Head will equip you with practical biblical tools to take control of your thoughts so they don’t control you.”—Christine Caine, best-selling author and founder of A21 and Propel Women
“My wife, Heather, and I both read this book and were deeply helped by it. Get Out of Your Head is packed full of truth and insight from God’s Word, personal vulnerability and honesty from Jennie, and practical wisdom and encouragement for all of us.”—David Platt, pastor of McLean Bible Church and best-selling author of Something Needs to Change
“Get out your highlighter, and get ready to gain the victory. You are about to get out of your head and get to where your heart has always hoped to be.”—Ann Voskamp, New York Times best-selling author of e Broken Way and One Thousand Gifts
“With honesty and vulnerability in sharing her own confessions and struggles, Jennie has written a book that I truly believe will challenge, bless, and empower all those who read it.”—Rev. Eugene Cho, founder of One Day’s Wages and author of Thou Shalt Not Be a Jerk
“Jennie Allen speaks so powerfully to this generation and teaches us so simply how to not allow our limitations to be our loudest story. Jesus > us. His desire is that we get out of our heads and live profound lives of freedom for His glory.”—Shelley Giglio, cofounder of Passion Conferences and Passion City Church
“I’m so glad Jennie tackles a difficult topic that so many of us face. Renewing our mind is essential for a life of flourishing with God. These pages hold clear action items to help you get out of your head and on to the journey of walking free.”—Rebekah Lyons, author Rhythms of Renewal --This text refers to the hardcover edition.
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All the Thoughts
Thinking About Thinking
“Take every thought captive.” They say authors write books for two reasons: either the author is an expert on the subject, or the subject makes the author desperate enough to spend years finding the answers. The latter most definitely describes me.
This morning I woke up intending to write to you. But first, I thought, I need to spend time with God. So what did I do? I picked up my phone. I noticed an email about something I was working on, in which the sender was “constructively” critical of my work. Just as I decided to set my phone down, something else stole my attention…and the next thing I knew, I was on Instagram, noticing others’ wins and glories contrasted with my work in process that seemed to not be measuring up. In minutes with my phone, I decided that I was an inadequate writer, I was spending my life chasing things that mean nothing because I am nothing, I have nothing to say. I was spiraling fast into discouragement.
Then my husband, Zac, came in happy, having just met with God, and I snapped at him. My spiral began to spin faster and more chaotically. In less than an hour, I had diminished myself, criticized all my work, decided to quit ministry, ignored God, and pushed away my greatest advocate and friend.
Wow. Brilliant, Jennie. And that was only this morning? And now you want to try to help me with my chaotic thoughts?
Well, I hear you. And I imagine all my life I will be in process with this. But because of the discoveries I get to share with you here, instead of my spiral stealing a day, a week, a few years…just an hour into it, there was a shift in my thinking.
I did not stay paralyzed. I am free and joyful and writing to you.
I want you to know that you do not have to stay stuck either. God built a way for us to escape the downward spiral. But we rarely take it. We have bought the lie that we are victims of our thoughts rather than warriors equipped to fight on the front lines of the greatest battle of our generation: the battle for our minds.
The apostle Paul understood the war that takes place in our thoughts, how our circumstances and imaginations can become weapons that undermine our faith and hope. The Bible records his bold declaration that we are to “take every thought captive to obey Christ.”
Take every thought captive? Is that possible? Have you ever tried?
Once a bird flew into our tiny house and wouldn’t fly out. It took more than an hour for our whole family working together to catch that silly little sparrow. Shooting the bird with a BB gun? Easy. But capturing the wild sparrow flailing through our house was an altogether-different task, a nearly impossible one.
How much more impossible to capture a wild thought on the fly? Yet the book I build my life on is telling me to captureall my thoughts, every one of them?
Is God serious?
Is this even possible? Because honestly my thoughts run wilder than that hyperactive sparrow.
And yours do too. I see the same wild chaos in your eyes and those of nearly every woman I meet. Like the young woman in so much pain who sat across from me this week, drowning in anxiety she has been fighting for two years. She looked at me, pleading, “Help. Tell me what to do!”
“I don’t want to live anxious,” she said. “I’m in counseling. I’m in Bible study. I’m willing to take medicine. I want to trust God. Why can’t I change? Why do I feel so stuck in this?”
Goodness, I relate and have fought the same thing.
It’s incredible, if you think about it: How can something we can’t see control so much of who we are, determine what we feel and what we do and what we say or don’t, dictate how we move or sleep, and inform what we want, what we hate, and what we love?
How can the thing that houses all those thoughts—just a bunch of folded tissue—contain so much of what makes us who we are?
Learning to capture our thoughts matters. Because how we think shapes how we live.
The Patterns That Keep Us Stuck
The subject of neuroscience has captivated me for years now, ever since one of my brilliant daughters began educating me on the science of the brain. When Kate, now a junior in high school, was in the seventh grade, she came home from school one afternoon and announced to the rest of us—her two brothers, her sister, my husband, Zac, and me—that she was going to cure Alzheimer’s disease someday.
We smiled, but years later she still is reading books and articles on the subject, listening to every TED Talk on the brain, sharing research with me. Things like…
Did you know that more has been discovered about our minds in the last twenty years than in all the time before that?
Did you know that an estimated 60 to 80 percent of visits to primary-care physicians have a stress-related component?
Did you know that research shows that “75 to 98 percent of mental, physical, and behavioral illness comes from one’s thought life”?
Did you know that, with what we know about the brain today, when Scripture is talking about the heart, it really could be talking about the mind and the emotions we experience in our brains?
Well, no, Kate, I did not. But that’s very interesting.
The truth is, it is very interesting to me.
Somewhere along the way, Kate’s fascination became mine too. Because she taught me that what she is learning in science is also scattered throughout my Bible and many of the truths in the Bible concerning our thought lives have been backed up by science. This all became increasingly important to me as I became gripped by the idea that taking control of our minds could be the key to finding peace in the other parts of our lives.
For several years I’d been in deep running IF:Gathering, the organization I believe God prompted me to start to disciple women and equip them to go disciple others. I loved our community, our gatherings, and the impact we seemed to be having, but over time I noticed a troubling trend among the women I loved and served every day.
Women would feel conviction at an event or as they worked through our discipleship resources, and they were surrendering their lives more fully to Jesus. They would soar on the wings of that resolve for a week, a month, sometimes a year or even two. But inevitably at some point they’d slip back into old habits, old patterns of doing life. Maybe you know exactly what I mean.
Maybe right now you’re thinking of that toxic relationship you finally got out of but then, in a weak moment, resumed.
Or you finally found peace about a less-than-desirable season of your life—but now your emotions have spiraled downward again, and all you do is complain.
Or you were convicted about your porn habit and stopped, only to slip back into the habit weeks later.
Or you recognized a pattern of being critical of your spouse, surrendered it, and truly started to change…just before you circled back to where you began.
Why, I wondered, don’t the changes so many women desperately want to make stick over the long haul?
And why did I still struggle with some of the same fears, negative patterns, and other sins that I had been fighting for years?
Even as I observed this boomerang effect at a broad level, I was also in relationship with dear friends, women I knew well, who seemed to battle the same issues year after year. Each time we’d get together, I’d hear the same song, five hundredth verse.
What prevented them from thriving? Why couldn’t they get unstuck? Kate’s discoveries as she continued to study the brain suggested one strong possibility:
It’s all in our heads.
Breaking the Spiral
There is much we don’t know about the brain. What’s also true: we’ve learned more about the brain in the past twenty years than we knew for the previous two thousand. We once thought of the mind as an immutable thing. The brain you were born with and the way it worked—or didn’t—were just “how it was”; no sense fretting over what can’t be changed. We now know thatthe brain is constantly changing, whether or not we intend for it to.
In hopes of discovering how women can break free from our problematic patterns, I started picking up heady books about the mind and about neuroscience and about how real change occurs. I watched TED Talks that Kate pointed me toward about our brain’s plasticity.
I listened to brainy podcasts.
I watched brainy documentaries.
I talked to brainy people.
I began to see a pattern at work in many of us. Our emotions were leading us to thoughts, and those thoughts were dictating our decisions, and our decisions were determining behaviors, and then the behaviors were shaping our relationships, all of which would take us back to either healthy or unhealthy thoughts.
Round and round and round we go, spinning down, seemingly out of control, our lives becoming defined by this endless cycle:
Emotion • Thought • Behavior • Relationships • Consequence
Unless. Unless there is a way to interrupt it.--This text refers to the hardcover edition.
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- Publication date : January 28, 2020
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I bought this as a renew your mind / speak the word refresher course of sorts. Certainly helpful if you are new to the "genre" but had more filler than other books I have read on the subject. Honestly, I started skimming from about 35% to 75% and then quit the book altogether.
Two general observations.
1. I do not believe people who take anti-(fill in the blank) meds are necessarily sinning. God would have to address that matter with the individual. On the other hand, dig deep into those meds and you will see that many are essentially the legalized form of illicit drugs. We wage war on crystal meth and yet prescribe Adderall like it is candy. In my BC life I was a drug addict and know full well the connection between drugs and the supernatural. I am not certain the Church is taking this issue seriously enough. I am not certain if the Church is really getting to the ROOT of the problem and so as a result looks askance at our dependence on narcotics to cope with the symptoms. The author admits that members of her family "depend on medicine to help regulate their brain chemistry". Believe me, I am not trying to be harsh or start a flame war but by her own admission these folks are dependent. Is he whom the Son sets free free indeed? I am asking the question sincerely. I am not judging but asking the Church to judge itself since judgment begins at the house of the Lord. Last comment on this point. The author says you cannot think your way out of mental illness. Well, in SOME cases I would imagine you can IF you are agreeing with what Christ says about who you are in him. Moreover, I would add that you CAN think your way INTO mental illness. I have seen this first hand watching people descend into near madness because of guilt or unforgiveness or envy. We think it mean-spirited to say people are the cause of their own mental illness but I suspect they very often are, at least indirectly. Hey, was it mean-spirited for the Holy Spirit to say I was a sinner who needed to repent? I would say it was the epitome of LOVE and TRUTH.
2. I agree with the author that community is important. On the other hand, I have found it extraordinarily difficult finding community since becoming Christian. I admit that I am an introvert who prefers to be alone (not shy, actually loquacious but exhausted by human contact) yet I know what the Word says so my wife and I make an effort. But again, as our culture even in the Church deteriorates, genuine fellowship is becoming increasingly rare. For instance, 30 years on the front line of Christian education at four institutions has provided me with only two people I would consider friends. And yet nine times out of ten I am the one who initiates contact. Out of sight, out of mind is the operative principles these days. Very sad. Another for instance, six years living in this tiny community and while we have many acquaintances, I would not call one person a friend. We have had people over for dinner at our house many, many times. Never once has it been reciprocated. Not once. We do not expect it. That is not why we do it. But you would think sooner or later... Furthermore, my wife is a giver. If it were not so beautiful to behold I would be tempted to call it pathological. And yet, nobody thanks her. Countless gifts to the pastor and his wife and her children. Nothing. Not once. Supplies for an abused woman who recently had the courage to flee. Not one thank you. My heart breaks for my wife. Will this change our behavior? No. We will continue to be hospitable and giving. So why bring it up? Because to those who say "no one ever reaches out" or "I do my part, but no one ever reciprocates", the author responds, "These things are not true!" Uh, my experience is that they could very well be true. Maybe not ALWAYS but often enough. Again, I am not suggesting that we buckle and hide under a rock but faith is faith despite an honest assessment of reality. You MAY be mistaken in your assessment but I can assure you that I am not. But again, no big deal. We don't quit doing what Christ commands us to do just because we don't "see" success as we define it.
Anyway, I hope the book is a blessing to you.
If you ever struggle with your thought life, READ THIS BOOK! There is HOPE!
Overall, the author has a story to tell that hopefully helps others with thinking about their thinking. I’m not sure that this self-help type of book has any new information that will displace merely reading, studying and applying God word or listening to His Spirit guide His people in truth.
Solomon writes, “of making of books, there is no end.” He’s right. There’s a lot of books out there. You might save some time and just do a great Bible study, or find yourself a good counselor. 1 star for effort.
*** Just listened to several of her podcasts. Also, lots of rambling and not giving many specifics. She can talk a lot without saying much of anything. Speaks in cliche and generalities. ***
Jennie is so real throughout the entire book. She shares the deep, dark of her own struggle that led to the development of this book. And that is where the hope and encouragement starts! There is a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s Jesus. This is definitely a must-have book for everyone. I’m deeply grateful that the Lord provided Jennie the words to write, to share the depths of fighting for our minds.
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Jennie Allen has a way of writing that will keep you hooked. I found myself taking breaks from work just so I could sit and read it. If I was feeling anxious, especially at outings, just reading a page would relax me. It shows you that those deep, dark thoughts are more normal than you think, and you can get rid of them. Jennie had been in a dark place for 18 months, the exact same place I went to these past months. Her insight helps you gain a new perspective on it and change your mindset.
I'm sure this book isn't for everyone, but if you've experienced anxiety and stress, it might just be for you. It helped me so much. Every morning for the past few months I've had morning sickness from anxiety, until only recently. This is because the first thing I do every morning is open my Jennie Allen book (i'm reading another one now!!), and straight away I feel the tension fade away.
An amazing book. I finished it in about two days, meanwhile, there are books that have been on my floor mid-read since January.