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About Gina Pera
Gina Pera is an internationally known author, speaker, and expert in Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. For the past 16 years, she has researched and written about Adult ADHD while also advocating for better awareness and treatment standards.
She has recently launched an online training site for consumers and professionals: ADHDSuccessTraining.com
There is also an International ADHD Professionals Directory.
Pera is the author of two highly praised books and one chapter in the leading ADHD clinical guide (edited by Russell Barkley, PhD). And, she writes an award-winning blog on ADHD: ADHDRollerCoaster.org
Her first book broke new ground in the field and won four book awards. It has been translated into Turkish and Spanish.
Her most recent book (with psychologist Arthur Robin) is: "Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions." It presents the first therapeutic model for helping these couples.
A popular speaker, she provides education and support for the ADHD community, leading workshops internationally, facilitating discussion groups in Silicon Valley and a 1,000-member Internet-based group for the partners of adults with ADHD.
Previously, Gina was an award-winning newspaper and magazine journalist.
Her blog: ADHDRollerCoaster.org
Training site: https://ADHDSuccessTraining.com
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The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult AD/HD was declared a medical diagnosis. Still, the public harbors misconceptions, and that means millions suffer needlessly. And that includes millions of couples who can't understand why their lives together are so hard -- sometimes despite many attempts at couples therapy.
Everyone knows someone with adult AD/HD. Yet we misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, or moodiness. Moreover, we assume AD/HD means "little boys with ants in their pants."
In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in a mentally restless state. (By the way, the former, and still better-known, official term is ADD, plus or minus Hyperactivity. The new term, AD/HD, uses a slash mark to indicate that hyperactivity is not central to the diagnosis.)
Meticulously researched by award-winning journalist Gina Pera, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? is a comprehensive guide to recognizing the behaviors where you least expect them (on the road and in the bedroom, for example) and developing compassion for couples wrestling with unrecognized ADHD symptoms.
It also offers the latest information from top experts, plenty of real-life details, and easy-to-understand guidelines for finding the best treatment options and practical solutions. The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people--and a joyous opportunity for a better life.
Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life.
--Daniel G. Amen, M.D., author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
... contains information that is just not available anywhere else. This book is sure to become the authoritative guide for couples dealing with ADD.
--Patricia O. Quinn, M.D., Director, The National Center for Girls and Women with ADHD
...We expect this book will be the bible for all of us dealing with adult ADD.
-- Elizabeth Weathers and Diane Hartson, moderators, ADD Spouse support group
... I can safely predict it will become as much an 'industry standard' as Driven to Distraction.
--David Edelberg, M.D., Medical Director, WholeHealth Chicago
... The book is well researched, reader friendly, and includes insights and perspectives from a Who's Who of professionals. For couples struggling with ADHD, it's the season's new must-have book and bound to become a classic.
--Michele Novotni, Ph.D. Psychologist, Coach
Confirmatory brain neuroscience answers this speculation about Adult ADHD: It s a real problem with real and painful challenges, not a belief system.
-- Charles Parker, DO, Medical Director, CorePsych, author of Deep Recovery
... Gina Pera has combined a real feel for the disorder with sound reporting skills and the spice of those who tell the story best: the couples themselves.
-- Margaret D. Weiss, M.D., Ph.D., Head, Provincial ADHD Program, British Columbia, Canada
... Gina Pera has been there and has authored a guide that offers understanding for the confused, practical strategies for the frustrated, and hope for the despondent. This book will be a lifesaver for both partners.
-- Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., M.B.A., author of Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD
Since ADHD became a well-known condition, decades ago, much of the research and clinical discourse has focused on youth. In recent years, attention has expanded to the realm of adult ADHD and the havoc it can wreak on many aspects of adult life, including driving safety, financial management, education and employment, and interpersonal difficulties. Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy breaks new ground in explaining and suggesting approaches for treating the range of challenges that ADHD can create within a most important and delicate relationship: the intimate couple.
With the help of contributors who are experts in their specialties, Pera and Robin provide the clinician with a step-by-step, nuts-and-bolts approach to help couples enhance their relationship and improve domestic cooperation. This comprehensive guide includes psychoeducation, medication guidelines, cognitive interventions, co-parenting techniques, habit change and communication strategies, and ADHD-specific clinical suggestions around sexuality, money, and cyber-addictions. More than twenty detailed case studies provide real-life examples of ways to implement the interventions.
New to This Edition
*Reflects significant advances in research and clinical practice.
*Expanded with many new authors and new topics.
*Chapters on cutting-edge interventions: social skills training, dietary management, executive function training, driving risk interventions, complementary/alternative medicine, and therapies for adults.
*Chapters on the nature of the disorder: neuropsychological aspects, emotional dysregulation, peer relationships, child- and adult-specific domains of impairment, sluggish cognitive tempo, and more.
"Gina, sex is difficult for people with ADHD; it's tough to stay focused!" says a female friend who has ADHD. Staying focused during intimacy is only one issue that challenges couples affected by adult ADHD.
Yet, strangely enough, even many mental-healthcare professionals assume that sex constitutes an “ADHD Free” zone where brain-based challenges with attention, organization, mood-regulation, or motivation don’t matter or, in the minds of skeptics, don’t even exist.
Yes, sexual expression is yet another one of those areas—like sleep—where the public and professionals alike often fail to connect the dots to ADHD symptoms.
As I write in my first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?:
"When ADHD does create significant sexual problems, it usually falls into two categories: The ADHD partner initiates sex all the time or almost never. In the sexual relationship as in elsewhere with ADHD, we encounter variable challenges in self-regulation and summoning motivation."
In between these two extremes, always and never, there lies an entire range of ADHD-charged issues that can drive apart couples—if they don’t know what they’re dealing with or what strategies to implement. Ignorance about this critically important connection between ADHD and sexual intimacy creates so much unnecessary hurt.
In this Kindle book (125 book pages), you will find:
ADHD and Sexual Intimacy: What You Need to Know (That a Sex Therapist Cannot Tell You)—A greatly expanded version of my book’s Chapter 6, on the myriad ways in which ADHD can affect the sexual relationship, along with healing strategies
Post-Orgasm Irritability—and even Jerkdom—A look at a common phenomenon that leaves many people confused and stuck in a disturbing pattern
BONUS: Two books from the early 20th Century that address this post-orgasm phenomenon and promote overall relationship intimacy in an intriguing way.
Adults with ADHD and Their Partners Speak Out—a curated selection of comments on my first blog post on ADHD and Sex, in 2009. Consider it the first step in finding community—and finding your voice.