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About Kim Holderness
Kim was born and raised in Florida, and was a competitive dancer. She went to the University of Florida, then began her career in TV journalism. Penn loves writing recipes for her blog at theholdernessfamily.com, going on long walks, and daydreaming about living on the beach. She lives in Raleigh, North Carolina with her husband, two kids, and dog Sunny.
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Learn how to fight better and end arguments feeling closer, more loved, and better understood by your partner.
We take our cars in for oil changes. We mow our lawns and pull weeds. Why don’t we do maintenance on our marriages? This relationship is the most important one we will ever have, so why not get better at it?
For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight; a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?
With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their ten most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle—and maybe laugh a little more along the way.
In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to
- use “magic words” to navigate conflict
- break free of secret contracts
- banish the three Ds—distraction, denial, and delay
- carry their own individual baggage while helping each other deal with theirs
Penn and Kim want you to know you’re not alone. Everybody fights. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it.