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If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Discover the four types of difficult parents:
- The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety
- The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone
- The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting
- The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?
Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.
If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.
獻給即使長大成人,卻仍被親情陰影綑綁的孩子
不再因為父母的缺失,懷疑自己不值得被愛
情緒不成熟父母的十個特徵
1. 在他們身邊,你總是覺得孤單
2. 與他們互動,感覺像是走在令人喪氣的單行道
3. 你覺得受到威脅卻無計可施
4. 他們第一,你是次要
5. 他們無法與你建立親密感或是交心
6. 他們不明說,而是藉著情緒感染來溝通
7. 他們從不尊重你的界線或個體性
8. 你獨自做出情緒努力,他們卻未必領情
9. 你喪失情感自主和精神自由
10. 他們很能掃興,甚至殘忍到病態
四種類型的情緒不成熟父母
1. 情緒型父母:受感覺主宰,只要事出意外、讓他們不快,便馬上激動反應。情緒極不穩定,一樁小事也宛如世界末日,端視對方有無滿足其需求而定。
2. 驅動型父母:超級目標導向,總是忙個不停,不斷聚焦於改進,一心改善每件事、每個人。經營家庭有如截止在即的工作專案,對孩子的情感需求無感。
3. 被動型父母:想當好人,讓配偶扮黑臉,表面上疼愛孩子,但缺乏深層同理心。他們屈從主導的另一半,對配偶虐待、冷落孩子視而不見、不敢作為。
4. 排斥型父母:對關係毫無興趣,逃避互動,無視家人的需要,只顧專心處理自己的事情。與孩&
This inspiring book touches a chord which is universal: the desire to find one's purpose and fulfill it. It aims to help us understand the fears, frustrations and loyalties that sabotage our dreams and best efforts at personal growth. Dr. Gibson reveals the reasons why we doubt and defeat ourselves. "Too often," she states, "the urge to fulfill our destiny is stopped short by the needs of others - our parents, employers, partners - and is waylaid by financial and/or emotional constraints. That's why many of us turn ourselves into whatever somebody else needs us to be."
Among the topics Dr. Gibson covers are: how to find out what you really want to do with your life, why growth can be so hard, what you can do when the going gets tough, and what to do to change your life and become your best self. Most importantly, Gibson provides a practical road map out of old habits and shows how to forge a new path on which each of us can redefine our identity and become the person we want to be.
Viele psychische Erkrankungen haben ihren Ursprung in der Kindheit. Vor allem negative Bindungserfahrungen hinterlassen im erwachsenen Gehirn eine „Stressnarbe“. Wenn Eltern nicht in der Lage sind, dem eigenen Kind emotionalen Rückhalt zu geben, um stark und geborgen zu wachsen, macht es eine schmerzhafte Erfahrung, die sich durch das ganze weitere Leben zieht. Die Betroffenen leiden später verstärkt unter Bindungsangst, Verlustängsten und mangelndem Selbstwertgefühl. Mit berührenden Fallgeschichten und den richtigen Fragestellungen hilft die Psychologin Lindsay Gibson, derartige Verletzungen zu verarbeiten und emotionale Bedürfnisse klar zu artikulieren.