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Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?

In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.

Includes the Couple's Personal Profile assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one.

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The Five Love Languages Gift Edition was designed with gift givers in mind. If you’ve benefited from the Five Love Languages books and want to pass along the wisdom to newlyweds or couples you know, this beautiful hardcover book with its two-color interior, ornate foil-stamped cover, satin ribbon, and deckled edges makes a perfect high-quality gift for any occasion.	In this groundbreaking book Paul White and Gary Chapman apply the love language concept to the workplace. Want to know how to connect with coworkers, motivate employees, or express appreciation effectively and appropriately in the workplace? This is the book for you. Includes an MBA Inventory Access Code when you buy it new.	If you have a teenage family member or friend you want to introduce to The Five Love Languages, this book is the perfect place to start. Written with teens in mind, it breaks down the love language concept and applies it to the life of an average teenager in language they’ll appreciate and enjoy.

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Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.

How do you discover your spouse’s – and your own – love language? Chapman’s short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.

Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like –hoping the feelings of affection will follow later– a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. "Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." --Cindy Crosby. This text refers to the Amazon.com Exclusive Journal & Paperback Book Set. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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"In this unabridged recording of material the author has been perfecting for years, he says that people experience love most strongly through one of five love languages--quality time, words of encouragement, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman's thoughtful, youthful sounding voice offers these insights not as the Five Commandments of Marriage, but as suggestions he hopes will be helpful. He provides humble examples from his counseling practice, which illuminate his ideas and give a human, down-to-earth quality to the lesson. Without making light of the work a marriage requires, he'll convince most listeners that with just a little planning and effort they can make a good marriage great and a broken partnership truly satisfying again."
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In this unabridged recording of material the author has been perfecting for years, he says that people experience love most strongly through one of five love languages--quality time, words of encouragement, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman's thoughtful, youthful sounding voice offers these insights not as the Five Commandments of Marriage, but as suggestions he hopes will be helpful. He provides humble examples from his counseling practice, which illuminate his ideas and give a human, down-to-earth quality to the lesson. Without making light of the work a marriage requires, he'll convince most listeners that with just a little planning and effort they can make a good marriage great and a broken partnership truly satisfying again. T.W. 2006 Audie Award Finalist © AudioFile 2006, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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In the area of love, it is similar. Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other. My friend on the plane was speaking the language of "Affirming Words" to his third wife when he said, "I told her how beautiful she was. I told her I loved her. I told her how proud I was to be her husband." He was speaking love, and he was sincere, but she did not understand his language. Perhaps she was looking for love in his behavior and didn't see it. Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.

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About the Author

GARY CHAPMAN--author, speaker, counselor--has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of "The 5 Love Languages" series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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This meticulously crafted edition of the iconic #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages® is the perfect gift for weddings, anniversaries, or as a special encouragement for any couple.

The Special Edition features:

· classic, yet timeless design

· ornate foil-stamped cover

· satin ribbon marker

· interior accent color

· beautifully designed end sheets

· high quality paper with deckled edges

With over 10 million copies sold, The 5 Love Languages® has transformed countless relationships. Conveyed with clarity and illuminated with real-life illustrations, the revolutionary concepts will equip and inspire you to express love in ways that really connect. It's as practical as it is personable; simple as it is profound. Discover the secret to love that lasts and begin applying it to your relationship today!

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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00OICLVBI
Publisher ‏ : ‎ Northfield Publishing; Reprint edition (December 11, 2014)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ December 11, 2014
Language ‏ : ‎ English
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Gary Chapman—author, speaker, and counselor—has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages® series and the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary Travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations.

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JKL

Just started to read so more rates are possible at the end of reading

Reviewed in the United States on November 16, 2018

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I have just started to read this book. In the Acknowledgments, I noticed this, "If all wives loved as she does, fewer men would be looking over the fence." How about "If all husbands loved as he does, fewer women would be looking over the fence."? I am serious.

1,636 people found this helpful

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Allison Price

Stuck in 1950s ideals

Reviewed in the United States on February 11, 2019

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This book is rooted in religion. It is written solely for straight persons. The author over uses gender pronouns unnecessarily to push outdated gender norms. All the stories of couples are relatively the same, with the wife doing all the cooking and cleaning, and husband working too much and not spending quality time. The author credits himself a miracle worker whenever possible, including after convincing a woman to stay with her emotionally abusive partner based on the idea that if she treats him nicely even while being abused he will eventually come around. The basic, good principles of this book (which should be common sense) are overshadowed with very problematic ideals that may be triggering. It is important to note that while the author has a PhD he is NOT a psychiatrist, nor was his back ground in psychology or social work. His studies were in anthropology. He is a counselor through his church, and attended religious institutions for his education. He does however have clients refer to him as Dr. This is very misleading, and could be detrimental to persons seeking serious help in areas where emotional, physical, or substance abuse is at play, or in relationships where one or both parties is coping with mental illness.

1,079 people found this helpful

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DONNA

Religious undertones

Reviewed in the United States on June 30, 2018

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The book was pretty good, it had some valid points and learning that there are different ways that people express their love was important. What I think pulled away from the book was the underlying religious agenda to preach about God. It totally turned me off And I thought it was completely unnecessary to deliver the message. Of course if you are a religious person then this would be right up your alley.

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James F.

Great book, unless your wife is abusive

Reviewed in the United States on April 13, 2018

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I liked this book. I bought it around the time I started noticing my wife was being combative pretty often. I wanted to understand her, and for her to understand me better. We took the test but the entire time she seemed to make a joke out of it. It turns out, when your significant other is verbally and mentally abusive there is no book that can help you. With a normal person, this book will help you understand the way your partner thinks. I still have this book and will use it in the future when I find someone worth it.

687 people found this helpful

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Catherine Williams

Amazing way to restore the joy in your marriage!

Reviewed in the United States on March 1, 2018

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Absolutely every person should read this book. When I complained about something my husband did that annoyed me, he would say, "why don't you ever tell me about the things I do right?" Super evidence that he is a "Words of Affirmation" person. I am an "Acts of Service" person. So if he does something around the house or yard, I tell him what a good job he did, how great it turned out, and I thank him. These are not big deal things. If he drives I thank him for driving, If he empties the trash, I thank him. Stuff most people take for granted, the "Words of Affirmation" person needs to HEAR them. This guy thrives on compliments. I on the other hand, thrive on things like someone doing the dishes, or cleaning the floor. Don't buy me roses. To me, it's a waste of money! You have to read this book to find out which of the five languages you speak, and which your loved ones speak.

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Meagan

Don’t let bad reviews scare you away!

Reviewed in the United States on September 26, 2020

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After reading some reviews saying that the author was stuck in old ways, very religion based, and stating that a woman should have sex with her husband even if she doesn’t want to, I chose not to buy it. After trying to find other books I came back to this one and decided to buy it JUST for the quiz in the back. After the quiz I ended up reading the whole book. NEVER did I think or read anything the bad reviews said. I NEVER read a section in the book suggesting you should sleep with your husband just because he wants to. As a matter of fact, he says that sex will come after each spouse feels they are being loved properly and that sex is not the physical touch love language. NEVER did I see him suggest a woman should stay in a bad relationship and suck it up. I’m not a religious person and the very small amount of religious mentions did not bother me. If you're only looking for problems in the book, then why read it? I think this book can be extremely helpful and guiding towards bettering your relationship. You get what you put into it! The only thing he suggests is that before giving up and calling it quits, you learn your spouses love language and test it out daily for 2 months. He says this to BOTH spouses. This is teamwork, not only one sided. He uses examples where both spouses are making mistakes and have to put in work. It is very eye opening and helpful. So please, for the sake of bettering your relationship and understanding how to love each other better, get the book and give it a chance.

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Poor Ideas, No Critical Thought, Not Recommended for Thinking Adults

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 27, 2019

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Seems written by a church relationship minister type person, who has no training, no critical thought, and no evidence-base.

You would be better served by googling the 5 love languages, considering them for a second, then moving on to better things.

His evidence is literally "a couple came to me and the woman said she needed more physical intimacy, so physical intimacy is a love language". Repeat this another 4 times. That is the book.

There are other, evidence-based relationship books out there. Read those.

64 people found this helpful

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Awful, awful, awful!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 17, 2020

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I had to check twice that this was written in 1992 and not 1962. It is written exclusively for married heterosexual couples. Not at all relevant to today's world. I was interested to find out what the love languages were and wish I'd heeded the review that said just Google them! There are loads of bible references and examples that scrape far too close to being dangerously sexist. There is one woman who is married to a vile man who may never change and the author basically says she should bend to his every will. Never once does he say that if the vile husband doesn't start speaking her love language that she should then leave him. He just quotes the Bible. Urgh, it's awful. Steer well clear.

33 people found this helpful

M Harris

More than a book - More of a recipe for a joyful, happy relationship AND life

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 6, 2014

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This is one of those rare books that transcends others. 5 stars doesn't even come close!

A friend recommended this to me. I shan't reveal why he'd come to read the book, needless to say he spoke very highly of it. He was right, it is genuinely life changing. The way you think about everyone (not only your girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband, but your friends, children, parents, the lot!) can be altered dramatically if you give it a chance. It's aimed at helping you improve your marriage, but in my opinion it does that and much more besides.

It should be entitled - "Everything your parents didn't teach to in preparation for life - because they didn't know it either".

It's not perfect; the author is clearly a) American and b) a devout Christian. He mentions the American Dream and Church attendance more than once in the book. You have to accept this if you are neither of the above, foibles and all. It's repetitive in places too (deliberately, I'd guess) and slightly pious, verging on self congratulatory at times (it IS written by an America don't forget) but none of this should detract from an incredible read.

Whether all of the content is the author's own work or whether they've simply amalgamated a collection of other people's thoughts and theories to form their own, I neither know nor care. The ideas are presented in a highly digestible and practical form which will provoke thought and good nature in all but the most cynical reader.

If nothing else, it's such good value that you've nothing to lose but a few hours of your life, with everything to gain if you approach the content with an open mind.

Try it, you'll not be sorry. Read it, remember it, live by it and teach it to your children.

181 people found this helpful

Jill Harris

Easy to read, lots to learn

Reviewed in Canada on November 13, 2018

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I purchased this book because I wanted to learn more about relationships and how to better connect with my partner. I read it within a day (with a four-month-old baby in the house), and I found it accessible and interesting. The author describes the five different love languages with anecdotes and examples, and guides the reader how to decide what their own personal primary language is, as well as that of their partner. Once you know your love language, you're able to better direct your partner how to love you in ways that make you feel loved. For example, my love language is Acts of Service, and that's how I've always shown my love -- doing things for people or taking care of things so they don't have to. When those efforts are not reciprocated or particularly appreciated, it makes me feel upset. However, I never considered that to other people, those efforts are not what makes THEM feel loved, and it took this book to help that lightbulb go off. Now, I know that for different people, you must show them love in the way that they best like to receive it. I can't wait to try it out on the people in my life. I'm planning to buy this book for several of my friends.

69 people found this helpful

JoHH

Give your relationship a kick start with the advice in this book

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on September 10, 2018

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Get this book if you have any inclination to help your relationships along - be it with your partner, your kids or your friends.
It made me understand better the things that were working reasonably well already and pin pointed the things that needed some attention. Encourage the important people in your life to read it too and life might take on a brighter look.

31 people found this helpful