This movie was gently and lovingly directed. The actors brought a genuine and authentic feel to the entire Hospice floor from staff, volunteers, family, and especially the patients. Some reviewers complain that Alvin was to 'raunchy', that his gruffness 'ended the mood'. I'm here to say that Alvin's attitude and actions are exactly what one encounters on the Hospice floor. Accepting the fact that one has reached the end of their earthly moments tend to make some people raunchy, gruff, and sometimes, downright mean. All Alvin needed was some gentle kindness to help him understand that all was not lost, that he, at least, had a bit of time to make new friends, new memories, even to find love again. Alvin's gruff raunchiness was his suit of armor that even death couldn't scare him, when in fact, he was terrified and acting out because he desperately needed a reassuring and gentle hand. Understanding the emotional part of active dying is imperative to giving full proper care. This understanding leads the caregiver to not judge, but instead to compassion and empathy, gentleness, and love; and it can lead to a caregiver who is willing to break a couple of rules to help love along its path.
Kevin was filled with grace, humor, acceptance and giving his girlfriend his blessing for her to find love again and to live a full, happy, and rich life. They had a 'last a lifetime' kind of love. In a sense, that's exactly what happened. Their love lasted Kevin's lifetime.
So, please watch and enjoy this movie with the knowledge that what you witness on the Hospice floor IS what happens on the Hospice floor. And yes, most of the staff in facilities smoke. This is a very difficult and a super high stress line of work. You know the patients you come to respect and love are going to die. Some peacefully slip away, others suffer greatly. Most of the families pull the caregiver into the fold of the family. For me, it was an honor to help my patients through the last of their journey on this earth. I've seen some remarkable things, I'd even say I witnessed some miracles, and things that cannot be explained except by faith.