Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder MP3 CD – Unabridged, October 22, 2012
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About the Author
Randi Kreger is creator of the website bpdcentral.com and the Welcome to Oz online support community. She is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.
Jeffrey Kafer is an avid performer on the stage and in voice-overs. He has narrated over one hundred books spanning all genres, and he won the 2008 Voicey Award for Best New Voice.
- Publisher : Tantor Audio; MP3 - Unabridged CD edition (October 22, 2012)
- Language : English
- ISBN-10 : 145266028X
- ISBN-13 : 978-1452660288
- Item Weight : 2.54 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.3 x 0.6 x 7.4 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #2,628,244 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Then suddenly divorce comes into the picture, and you have to make decisions for yourself and your protection. My divorce was one of the toughest fights I ever have done, and divorcing an abusive narcissist borderline definitely added to how difficult it was. But this book helped me think clearly, made me not feel as alone as I thought I was, and taught me how to approach almost every situation when dealing with a narcissist/borderline in divorce.
I was very thankful for this book, and very thankful for my attorney who I was able to communicate with clearly when it came to my fears of my very sick ex-wife and her lies. My attorney and this book hand-in-hand helped me to survive and practically win the financial part of my divorce. The emotional toll was difficult, and to some extent I am still dealing with it since the divorce was finalized in the spring of 2018, but that is a work in progress.
Highly advised to those who are divorcing a narcissist borderline, be it male or female. Their behaviors and psychology are text book, but with this book you will succeed.
The single most crucial piece of advice I obtained from this book is to ensure that all of your legal pleadings focus on specific, factual descriptions of your borderline spouse's actual conduct. Words, gestures, actions, inactions. Don't try to convince the judge your spouse is a rage-filled maniac by saying "my spouse is a rage-filled maniac" - show the judge your spouse is a rage-filled maniac by detailing the exact things she (or he) has done or said to you. Let her (or his) conduct speak for itself. The best advice for anyone divorcing a personality-disordered spouse is to read this book, then read it again.
This book gives clear descriptions of the kinds of behaviors that people with borderline personality disorders (BPD) and narcisssistic personality disorders (NPD) engage in, including the head games they often play. Read this, and you may gain some confidence that it really isn't YOU who's crazy- it's your S.O., making you THINK that YOU'RE the crazy one! Once you realize that you are being manipulated, you will feel more comfortable getting help to make the necessary changes in your life.
Toward that end, this book also gives much-needed PRACTICAL ADVICE for proceeding with the legal process of separation and divorce. The book covers what kinds of documentation to collect, how much money you might need to sock away, how to select an attorney, how to communicate with that attorney, how to conduct yourself when dealing with family court, and how to deal with that crazy spouse who acts so completely normal in court but reverts to being a berserk harpy again when on the phone with you.
This book could potentially save you lots of money in legal fees, support payments, and more importantly, doctor bills from STRESS. If you are in a relationship with a person who might have BPD or NPD, DEFINITELY read this book!!!