The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
What Is the Difference Between Having Empathy and Being an Empath?
"Having empathy means our heart goes out to another person in joy or pain," says Dr. Judith Orloff. "But for empaths, it goes much further. We actually feel others' emotions, energy, and physical symptoms in our own bodies, without the usual defenses that most people have." The Empath's Survival Guide is an invaluable resource for empaths who want to develop coping skills in a high-stimulus world while embracing their gifts of intuition, compassion, creativity, and spiritual connection.
In this unabridged recording of The Empath's Survival Guide read by Pam Tierney, Dr. Orloff shares practical, empowering, and loving advice for supporting empaths through their unique challenges—and for loved ones to better understand an empath's needs and gifts. Here listeners will discover crucial practices, including:
- Exercises to identify where you are on the empathy spectrum
- Tools for protecting yourself from sensory overload, exhaustion, addictions, and compassion fatigue
- Effective strategies to stop absorbing stress and physical symptoms from others and protect yourself from narcissists and other energy vampires
- How to find the right work that feeds you
- How to navigate intimate relationships without feeling overwhelmed
- Guidance for parenting empathic children
- Awakening the empath’s gift of intuition and deepening your spiritual connection to all living beings
For any sensitive person who’s been told to "grow a thick skin," here is a guide for staying open while building resilience, exploring your singular gifts, and feeling welcomed by a world that desperately needs what you have to offer.
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|Listening Length||7 hours and 15 minutes|
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|Audible.com Release Date||April 04, 2017|
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#1,917 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals)
#8 in Emotions
#38 in Popular Psychology Personality Study
#46 in Emotional Self Help
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First the positives:
- There were some good tools for setting up alone time with your romantic partner. It can be very difficult for people to express that particular need because of a tendency for others to react poorly. I felt that the book addressed that fairly well.
- There was a suggestion for professionals in a caring profession to protect themselves by coming up with three distinct features that distinguish you from a person whose feelings you are taking on as a quick and easy way to throw up a barrier by simply recognizing that you are not the same and that their emotions are theirs. I think that is potentially helpful in any situation.
- The suggestions were all detailed in the back in an easily comprehended format which I think is a virtue in any book of this type (sort of a consolation prize here).
-Virtually every other aspect.
- The book is grotesquely formulaic and suffers for it. It tries to cover a wide span of info identifying an empath without giving comprehensive information on what that means or really how to interpret it on a day to day basis. And as a person that used to do copywriting and copy editing for exactly these types of books, it reeked of a specific breed of formulaic writing that is geared toward making money (now that you have purchased my book, here buy my audio program and then also my platform) while starting from a place of good intention. I have no doubt that this person feels genuinely like she is helping people, but I also feel that impact is greater than intent and this type of corporate structuring is a conflict of interest.
- This is a repackaging of The Power of Positive Thinking but the You're Special Because You're Highly Sensitive version. I am a highly sensitive person. I found this approach to be insulting.
- It is vastly appropriate that the ties to spirituality that the author makes are present with typical positive thinking practice as the origin of Positive thinking is spiritualism of the late Victorian era.
- She advocates 12 step programs which are notoriously ineffective.
- The sources listed in this book are things such as HeartMath. These are NOT credible sources. Her use of sources like this sets my teeth on edge.
- There was some gendered nonsense in this book that was entirely unnecessary, especially because research in HSP or SPS shows that there is no difference in men or women (except for how they respond to the diagnostic which is most likely a result of conditioning, not inherent gender trait).
- There is a heavy focus on new age spiritualism, and this books brings with it a lot of the flaws--namely wishy-washy appropriative practice.
- Along with the aforementioned heavy-handed spirituality, there is also a hefty presence of pseudoscience.
Ultimately, I found this book to be a very negative experience. I think that positive thinking is an insidious practice that was backed by a lot of junk science that has since been shown to have been junk. I find this type of practice to be really insulting when addressing my other mental health issues and trauma bonds. I felt like this book excuses and encourages behavior that I don't think is excusable (even being highly sensitive, there are limits to the expectations you can place on other people in regards to checking your own behavior) and attempts to elevate being highly sensitive in a way that implies that it is better than being "normal", despite perhaps being slightly difficult to live with.
The language was grating, not detail oriented, and lacked citation. The text itself was very repetitive (ironic considering how many times she mentioned that being repetitive was negative when trying to communicate as an empath or with an empath). The meditation practice is fairly standard body awareness but is detailed much better in MANY other sources. There is nothing original here. I am very disappointed that my library did not have this book in stock so that I purchased it. Although, now that I think of it, perhaps I should be glad.
Sadly, as a child my doctors misdiagnosed me as rapid-cycling bipolar disorder and subjected me to several useless medications to "fix" it. I spent 30 years trying to stop feeling so overwhelmed and exhausted.
Now that I've been using some of the meditation and other offered techniques, my "Over-Emotional issues" are no more. Turns out they weren't even my emotions. I now live in a quiet area outside the city with few neighbors and do a lot better. Also, this explains my constant cravings to be alone in nature and why I seem to bond so deeply with my animal companions. They get sick when I do and are energetic when I am.
It also explains why even though I like people and want to spend time with them, I get overwhelmed at loud, rambunctious events.
Thank you Judith for your insights and advice. I can now live in relative peace.
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Additionally, many of the ways suggested to cope with the stress of the world is simply to meditate and to imagine roots grounding you or chanting... Even if you do believe in spiritual stuff (which I believe is mostly just for faith and a sense of calmness), the other strategies for coping are very simple and can be inferred with common sense or by simply researching online for a few seconds. Things such as taking walks in nature, finding a quiet space, avoiding negative people and taking relaxing baths are extremely obvious ways of alleviating stress. The other suggestions are to eat a balanced diet, exercise and to take vitamins which is a common fact for a generally healthy lifestyle for everyone, not just people who are very empathetic. Even if these methods are new to you, they have been repeated time and time again throughout the book, making it seem like there are more ways to cope when they are just reworded.
Another thing I dislike is the little tests to see if you're an empath where even if you agree with just ONE item on the list you are partially an empath... Although the minority of the population does not have a deep bond with people and don't take on their stress, people who overeat to cope with stress, scare easily, who feel like they're outcasts, have been labelled "shy" or are uncomfortable in social situations DO exist without being empaths. This book is aimed at empaths of which a lot of empaths do feel this way, a simple person who just is shy and wanted to read this book is immediately labelled as an "empath."
However, I do have to give some credit for the book tackling the issue of abusive or toxic relationships as well as parenting tips whether you are very empathetic or your child is which might be helpful for some people.
In conclusion, although I came to this book believing it had a lot of scientific credit and new ways of helping me cope with not being too isolated or too overwhelmed, the copious amount of spiritual faith and spirits is too (ironically) overwhelming.
I am able to feel energies from people and animals, but as an extrovert by nature, I couldn’t relate to much of what Judith Orloff was saying, particularly in her chapter about Relationship Empaths. It takes all sorts of empaths to make a world, not letting insensitive people “get” to you is more about growing spiritually and having good self esteem rather than avoiding those who seem out to “drain” you.
This is a new journey for me. I've discovered that there are different types of Empaths, some resonate with me, others don't, but that's OK! There is a Facebook support group which is well recommended to join as you are able to contact like-minded people!