The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
From the authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline, an indispensable guide to unlocking your child’s innate capacity for resilience, compassion, and creativity.
When facing contentious issues such as screen time, food choices, and bedtime, children often act out or shut down, responding with reactivity instead of receptivity. This is what New York Times best-selling authors Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson call a No Brain response. But our kids can be taught to approach life with openness and curiosity. When kids work from a Yes Brain, they’re more willing to take chances and explore. They’re more curious and imaginative. They’re better at relationships and handling adversity.
In The Yes Brain, the authors give parents skills, scripts, and activities to bring kids of all ages into the beneficial “yes” state. You’ll learn:
- The four fundamentals of the Yes Brain - balance, resilience, insight, and empathy - and how to strengthen them
- The key to knowing when kids need a gentle push out of a comfort zone vs. needing the “cushion” of safety and familiarity
- Strategies for navigating away from negative behavioral and emotional states (aggression and withdrawal) and expanding your child’s capacity for positivity
The Yes Brain is an essential tool for nurturing positive potential and keeping your child’s inner spark glowing and growing strong.
Includes a bonus PDF with fun graphics and tools to help you cultivate the Yes Brain in your child and you!
Praise for The Yes Brain:
“This unique and exciting book shows us how to help children embrace life with all of its challenges and thrive in the modern world. Integrating research from social development, clinical psychology, and neuroscience, it’s a veritable treasure chest of parenting insights and techniques.” (Carol S. Dweck, PhD, author of Mindset )
“I have never read a better, clearer explanation of the impact parenting can have on a child’s brain and personality.” (Michael Thompson, PhD)
“Easily assimilated and informative, the book will help adults enable children to lead physically and emotionally satisfying and well-rounded lives filled with purpose and meaningful relationships. Edifying, easy-to-understand scientific research that shows the benefits that accrue when a child is encouraged to be inquisitive, spirited, and intrepid.” (Kirkus Reviews)
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|Listening Length||5 hours and 56 minutes|
|Author||Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson|
|Narrator||Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson|
|Audible.com Release Date||January 09, 2018|
|Publisher||Random House Audio|
|Best Sellers Rank|| #5,164 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) |
#15 in Child Psychology (Audible Books & Originals)
#22 in Cognitive Neuroscience & Neuropsychology
#40 in Medical Child Psychology
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TEACH/REDIRECT = (The child MUST be calm before starting this.) Explain what happened, or let the kid do so, discover together. Redirect toward better behavior and decision-making, and talk about other strategies to try next time a similar situation comes up. Hold them accountable for their behavior, including making things right and engaging in appropriate behavior/repairs. Have a “Re-Do”. Success relies heavily on our being calm and attuned to his feelings. Teach them that they can tolerate discomfort. Show them and tell them you have complete faith in their ability. Children must always be held accountable and respectful even if the kid is stuck in bad feelings. You can stop destructive behavior and remove the child before you teach/redirect. Do not focus on punishment but on teaching. Teach kids to repair after conflict-teach them to be responsible.
LEARN to CONTROL ANGER = What are other BETTER ways they can express that anger. Teach them to become aware the moment when they get upset, pause and then use calming techniques. There is nothing wrong with getting upset, it is normal. How we express that anger is important. And how quickly we calm ourselves down is important. Teach them to use calming techniques: put hand on stomach and heart and listen to it and calm both down. Slow breathing. Count to ten. Have a cigarette. Body awareness.
Roll play trigger situations with your child can develop skills. Teach them resilience: the ability to bounce back when life’s inevitable problems and struggles arise Roll play or play games so the child loses, and get the kids to use these skills then. Practice small frustrations and move to more difficult situations. Know the triggers that cause your child to imbalance. Notice how long it takes for the child to calm down. Recognize and congratulate small accomplishments. Let them wrestle with indecision, discomfort, discouragement and disappointment. Do not rescue them from these, our job is to walk them through their difficult moments with connection and empathy, to be active participants in the problem-solving. If we push them too hard before they are ready it can backfire, making them more fearful.
Kids need play time. Avoid excessive electronics! Kids need connection/game time with family/friends-critical for their emotional and neurological success. Kids need physical time-aerobically. Get your children into many social interactions, very important for human brain development and health-for the rest of their life-even as an adult. Long term isolation is very unhealthy. Constant hours of TV or internet watching or reading books for hours on end is unhealthy. Stay connected socially.
Withdrawal – Stress behavior. Due to social contact, new situations, feeling uneasy, lack of self-confidence. Calm, reassure and redirect. Roll play for practice. Listen to what is NOT said. Body language.
Empathy: Understand the perspective of another, help or take action to make things better. Ask questions like “Why do you think that baby is crying?” or “That woman wasn’t very nice to us, was she? Do you think something happened that made her feel mad today?” Teach kids to recognize other people’s point of view. Roll play. Avoid, “You should care more about…” Bring attention to victims with your children, discuss the event or situation. Teach the child to apologize empathically, not just “I’m sorry.” But “I can see how you must feel sad that I pushed you down the stairs and that was very scary for your, I am sorry and won’t do that again.” Children are selfish, self-centered and can be taught to be caring and compassionate for others, it takes time and practice. Do not overact to a selfish child. Live in the now, correct in the now, not something that happened hours, days, weeks ago. Let that go and only “live in the now”. Children will relapse into being selfish. Never tell a child, “You will never learn to…”
Parents who come from bad relationships/families can learn and use these techniques on their children and on themselves. Parents can and should learn to use empathy toward everyone including themselves. Modeling the empathy to the child is very important. The brain changes through repeat.
Sound decision making – get your kids to do this on their own as much as possible by enabling choice. Young children get choice between two good decisions, but keep pushing dilemmas to challenge them. Why did you make that choice? Why did you feel that way? Why don’t you think you’ll do well?
Recognize and celebrate all the small successes in life everyday!!!!
Long story short, "The Whole Brain Child" and it's two companion books by the same authors, "No Drama Discipline", and more recently "The Yes Brain" really have been the most useful parenting books I've encountered. (they are loosely coupled, so you can read any of them individually, in any order)
Of the 40 or so books (and zillion articles, studies, etc.) I gobbled up when we first found out we'd be expecting, these are the ones that really stand out, and that I can most hold up and say "I'm a better parent today than I otherwise would be, because I read this."
These aren't read-once books for me - I still flip through them once in a while, as a refresher, three years later, and will probably continue to revisit them well into the future.
I also make it a habit to gift hardcover copies of all three books to anyone we know who's expecting, along with an offer to buy them the e-book versions instead, if they'd rather have those.
Even the best parents have room for improvement, and I can't really imagine anyone reading any of these without finding something that will add to their parenting skills.
Bottom line, if you believe parenting is a skill to be honed, if you want to parent thoughtfully and intentionally rather than just echoing your own parents methods (which may have been just fine), if you want your parenting to be in tune with the facts and empirical evidence provided by modern psychology and brain-science (which has improved greatly over the last 20 years or so), and if you want a better understanding of how your child's mind works, how you can best guide that mind for long-term success, then please don't miss these books.
What else can I say? Seriously, just buy the book - buy all three, if you can.
Your kids will probably never thank you for reading them, but they should =o)