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Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married Kindle Edition
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“Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.”
With more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, Gary has found that most marriages suffer due to a lack of preparation and a failure to learn to work together as intimate teammates.
So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive, and mutually beneficial marriage they envision, such as:
- What the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is
- What to expect about the roles and influence of extended family
- How to solve disagreements without arguing
- How to talk through issues like money, sex, chores, and more
- Why couples must learn how to apologize and forgive
Ideal for newly married couples and those considering marriage, the material lends itself to heart-felt, revealing, and critical conversations for relational success.
Read this bookand you’ll be prepared for—not surprised by—the challenges of marriage.
Bonus features include:
- Book suggestions and an interactive websites to enhance the couples’ experience
- “Talking it Over” questions and suggestions to jumpstart conversations over each chapter
- Appendix on healthy dating relationships and an accompanying learning exercise
About the Author
T.W. © AudioFile Portland, Maine
- ASIN : B0040891ZS
- Publisher : Northfield Publishing; New edition (September 1, 2010)
- Publication date : September 1, 2010
- Language : English
- File size : 466 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 173 pages
- Lending : Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #36,591 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- Customer Reviews:
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WHAT READERS CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK
1. Feelings of being "in love" cannot sustain a marriage, since the average life-span of these feelings is about two years. What sustains a marriage is spouses learning to communicate love in the forms that are most received by their partner.
2. We will often develop uncanny similarities to our parents, including their drinking habits, communication patterns, energy levels, and appearance.
3. Resolving marital disagreements without arguing. Truly listening to the other spouse in order to give an adequate summary of his or her perspective. Agreeing to disagree. Learning to compromise.
4. The importance of spouses making effective apologies for wrongdoing. Learning to speak your spouse's language of apology is more effective than just saying you are sorry. The five different ways of apologizing are 1) expressing regret, 2) accepting responsibility, 3) making restitution, 4) genuinely expressing the desire to change your behavior, and 5) requesting forgiveness.
5. Forgiveness is one's decision to offer grace instead of demanding justice.
6. How spouses can agree on doing which household chores.
7. How spouses can most effectively manage their money, and what common major mistakes to avoid, such as purchasing a home they cannot afford, going out to eat too often, buying new cars, and buying too much alcohol. How to live on 80% of your income, give 10% to charity, and save 10%. How couples can agree not to buy something over a certain amount without consulting the other.
8. Resolving common sexual difficulties. Overcoming the myth that husband and wife must reach climax together. A husband should spend sufficient time caressing his wife. A husband participating in household chores will often increase desire in his wife for him. Spouses should only engage in sexual acts they are both comfortable with.
9. How spouses can develop good relationships with their in-laws, by learning to listen empathetically to them, speaking their particular love languages to them, and alternating holidays with them.
10. Spiritual compatibility in marriage has more to do with what each spouse believes in the way God speaks to them and what He has said.
11. How spouses can live with a partner who has very different habits, including Morning person vs. Night person, Optimist vs. Pessimist, Neat vs. Messy, Talker vs. Non-talker, Passive vs. Aggressive, Logical thinkers vs. Intuitive person, and Organizer vs. Spontaneous person.
12. Having a balanced dating relationship by attending to these areas of growth: Intellectual, Emotional, Social, Spiritual, and Physical.
Thank you for inspiring Gary CHAPMAN
My prayer is that anyone aspiring to marry or that is married read this book.
Book content :
- I wish I had known that being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage
- I wish I had known that romantic love has two stages
- I wish I had known that the saying : "like mother, like daughter" and "like father, like son" is not a myth
- I wish I had known how to solve disagreements without arguing
- I wish I had known that apologizing is a sign of strength
- I wish I had known that forgiveness is not a feeling
- I wish I had known that toilets are not self-cleaning
- I wish I had known that we needed a plan for handling our money
- I wish I had known that mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic
- I wish I had known that I was marrying into a family
- I wish I had known that spirituality is not to be equated with "going to church."
- I wish I had known that personality profoundly influences behavior
- I wish I had known the known the priority of developing a healthy dating relationship before marriage
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It also helps you understand your character more and appreciate those with different character traits - this was my favourite part.
The reflection questions were also great. I would highly recommend this book.
Although I'm not married or even in a relationship, it proved to be a very informative and realistic book in thinking about what we expect from marriage and why those I've observed from both a professional and personal basis have their struggles and sometimes endings!
A 'must' read for couples and singletons as prep for the reality of commitment to marriage.