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About Zari Ballard
Zari Ballard is a Narcissist Abuse Recovery (NAR) Coach, self-published author of five books, and the founder of TheNarcissisticPersonality.com, a support blog containing over 90 articles covering every mind-boggling aspect of narcissism in relationships and narcissist abuse recovery. To see and hear Zari up close and personal, be sure to subscribe to her YouTube Channel to enjoy the "When Love Is a Lie" Video Blog Series.
Through articles, books, videos and via one-on-one support coaching, Zari has guided thousands of abuse victims worldwide to the road of full recovery. Her flexible and highly affordable support service for narcissist abuse recovery offers a unique blend of camaraderie and virtual tough love and is second to none.
Born & Raised: Warwick, RI
Permanent Residence: Tucson, AZ
Education: Rhode Island College, B A in Communications/English
Find Zari on Amazon, Twitter, and on YouTube ("When Love Is a Lie" Video Series)
For eye-opening information about narcissism in relationships as well as the opportunity to book some talk time directly, visit Zari on her blog TheNarcissisticPersonality.com.
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When our partner has a narcissistic personality, only those who've actually experienced the madness will ever understand what we're going through. When Love Is a Lie is a straight-up, tell-all audio book about narcissism in relationships that deliberately skips the clinical bullshit to focus solely on the personal experience. Zari Ballard's story will educate, enlighten, and empower you to re-evaluate the mind-boggling dysfunction in your own relationship and then call it out. Compare Zari's story to your own and watch what happens. As it has for thousands of abuse victims worldwide, When Love Is a Lie is going to resonate with you in ways that no other book about narcissism ever has.
Any relationship involving a person with a narcissistic personality disorder will inevitably take a dark turn. We stay in the relationship thinking we can fix this person or love him/her out of their bad behavior but the truth is that narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths can never be fixed - not with love, therapy, or any magic pill. Life becomes a roller coaster ride from hell with Lucifer himself at the controls. If that sounds dramatic, then you've never loved a narcissist. If that sounds familiar, then this very special book may just change your life.
When Love Is A Lie breaks down the signs of a narcissistic personality, exposes the narcissist's way of thinking, and explains exactly how a partner with this type of personality will....
- ..over time, deliberately and methodically manage down your expectations of the relationship so that you expect less and less and he/she gets away with more
- ..mimic the appropriate emotions at opportune times to achieve desired results
- ..use the silent treatment, disappearances/reappearances, and other demoralizing (and passive-aggressive) control tactics to punish those who dare to call him/her out on questionable behaviors
- ..create constant narcissistic chaos and turmoil even - and especially - during the "good" times as a way of keeping you in a heightened state of co-dependent anxiety 24/7
- ..juggle many relationships at once - sometimes for years on end - with no one being the wiser, not even you
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How to change your perspective and save your life
Do you feel hopelessly addicted to a narcissistic abuser?
Do you feel isolated in your misery because those around you just don't "get it"?
Despite all you know about narcissism, are you still hopeful your partner is the exception?
Is relationship amnesia keeping you tethered to only the good memories?
Are you tormented by separation anxiety and sudden impulses to break no-contact?
If you're reading this, it's likely you've come to the end of the line with a narcissistic abuser. You've either survived the physical separation but now struggle with the ongoing mental connection or you're still involved with the narcissist and seeking a way out. Either way, this codependency recovery book by author Zari Ballard (When Love Is a Lie) will fix you - and it's easier than you think. The secret is in changing your perspective. You, too, can be among the survivors!
Stop Spinning, Start Breathing is a codependency workbook designed to help you distance yourself from the spinning mindset that prevents a narcissist's victim from ever getting to a place where feeling better - let alone feeling normal - seems even remotely possible. A person who has never experienced this type of relationship will simply never understand!
In this workbook, Zari will:
..share personal experiences with silent treatments, triangulation, and more that will resonate with your own - and she minces no words
..guide you step by step through the same pre-breakup process that helped Zari "get it right" in her own head
..ask you pertinent, thought-provoking questions so that each answer you provide will play a role in your recovery
..provide plenty of white space where you can journal both the pain of your past and the hope for your future
..guide you towards finding mental closure, relationship reconciliation, and acceptance that yes, it's time to move on...and that you're strong enough to do it
Planning a strategy for recovery is your only viable option. So, whether you've recently been discarded, ended the relationship yourself, or still involved and looking for a way out, this amazing book will demystify the recovery process and unburden your weary mind. It's an empowering solution that works for everyone. And that's a promise.
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For more articles and information about narcissism in relationships and to book a consultation with Zari, BE SURE TO VISIT HER BLOG.
Is your wife, girlfriend, or lover a pathological liar, a cheater, and someone who is nothing like the person you fell in love with? Does she accuse you incessantly of cheating even though her own stories and excuses as to her own whereabouts never seem to add up? Does she blame you for everything wrong with the relationship and take accountability for nothing even when you catch her red-handed? Are you subjected to silent treatments, sudden disappearances, and cold shoulders for no reason at all and will she use “the power of the pussy” to manipulate you into taking her back?
Answer yes to any of the above and it’s likely your woman has a narcissistic personality and your life has become a confusing psychological nightmare from which you can’t recover. It’s also likely that, in your quest to find support, you’ve run into roadblocks since much of the information available focuses on the female victim of the male narcissist as if the reverse never even happens. Moreover, this lack of support is exacerbated by the fact that we live in a society that doesn’t provide a whole lot of sympathy for male victims of anything. Unlike the male narcissist who has to be substantially more covert in carrying out his agenda, the female narcissist knows that society will both sympathize and participate and she relies on this fact, using her female ways to cover her ass all day, every day.
“Lacking a moral compass, a female narcissist will stay in multiple relationships, diligently working to keep partners unsure or unaware of the existence of the others, for as long as she can and even after her crime has been discovered. The fact that she causes pain to others is the fuel to her fire. Narcissists live their lives via the proxy of their partner’s suffering and via the “rules and requirements” of the narcissist’s relationship agenda.” – When Evil Is a Pretty Face, 2015
This book will explain why the female narcissists does what she does, says what she says, and how her twisted mind thinks relative to her pathological agenda. The truth is that the female narcissist has her male counterparts beat hands down in the evil department and because she’s a female, she is allowed to live her life in a way that is above reproach. But there is one thing that all narcissists have in common and that is that they can never be fixed – not with love, therapy, or with any magic pill. No Contact is the only way to escape the relationship alive and Zari Ballard has written a book that will show you the way.
In relationships, within social networking, and across dating websites, narcissism is running rampant in epidemic proportions. Learning to recognize the signs/behaviors of the narcissistic personality can prevent this type of emotional manipulation and predatory abuse from ever happening to you at all OR the knowledge will give you the confidence to finally (and permanently) go "no contact" and exit the game you're already involved in.
Do you suspect that your partner is a narcissist? If so, how can you know for sure? Have you learned how to connect the dots from one narcissistic behavior to another? Yet another amazingly intuitive book about narcissism in relationships from blogger/relationship counselor Zari Ballard (thenarcissisticpersonality.com), Narcissism in A Nutshell will quickly provide you the definitive answer to that all-too familiar nagging question: Is he or isn't he?
This narcissism handbook not only describes the thirteen most blatant characteristics of narcissism in a relationship, it also shows, very clearly, how all of the described behaviors seamlessly connect. This is very important because - together – all of these behaviors form what Zari has deemed the narcissist’s pathological relationship agenda – an agenda by which the narcissist lives his life and by which you, if you choose to stay, will live your life as well. In other words, these behaviors do not stand alone and don’t make the mistake of thinking that they do. If you try to bargain with logic, you will always lose, my friend.
Here’s a nutshell version of how a narcissist’s mind-boggling behaviors connect from one to the other: The love-bombing described in Chapter I evolves into the future-faking in Chapter III in the same way that the silent treatment described in Chapter VI is a direct result of the managing down of expectations explained in Chapter VIII in the same way that the pathological lying in Chapter II along with the Cell Phone Game of Chapter V, the triangulation revealed in Chapter X, and the projection of Chapter XIII is all part of the chaos creation described in Chapter XII! Together and combined, they enable the overall mindset that allows the narcissist to perpetuate – and get away with - the “love” juggling exposed in Chapter VII. And those are just a FEW of the many ways that we can connect the dots within this book.
02/10/21 NEW RELEASE from NAR Coach Zari Ballard,
the author of “When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda”...
“When we love a toxic person such as a narcissist, we spend much of our time in the relationship rabbit hole and will become quite acclimated. Our eyes adjust to the darkness and our skin becomes just thick enough so that most bullshit rolls off. It is a hole that feels endless…and somewhere between its ominous opening and this infinite endlessness is where our toxic love resides.” Zari Ballard (Vacancy in the Rabbit Hole)
The bad behaviors of toxic people should never determine our self-worth. Narcissists play the Game of Life by a different set of rules than everyone else and they count on the fact that you haven’t studied their playbook. This book will help you train your brain to turn the tables on partner narcs and take charge of your life once and for all.
Zari’s long-awaited 5th book about narcissism in relationships provides a roadmap to recovery for those seeking to lessen the setback of emotional suffering. Vacancy in the Rabbit Hole analyzes the break-up on a personal level and discusses the phases of suffering, trauma bonding, co-parenting, and the question of forgiveness. As always, Zari speaks from an experience that readers who have “been there, done that” will understand and appreciate. If you’re seeking a way out of the madness, this book will take you on a journey that you don’t want to miss.
It’s time to step beyond the borders of suffering after the narcissist and beat these vampires at their own game without even trying. And believe it or not, it’s as simple as changing your perspective…