I heard an interview with the author on NPR (I think) and immediately felt a connection. Why had I not read any of her books? Not sure. After this, if her fiction is anything as good as her essays then I will. Evidently she wrote advice shorts for Seventeen magazine to pay rent whilst dreaming of writing novels. While she writes of her life experience from the perspective of a writer, her message has universal appeal. Her 2011 essay for Byline, "Getaway Car" is a "how to" directed at an audience of budding writers, but speaks to all of us about failure, perseverance, and knowing one's self. I am not a writer or do I ever intend to be, but "Getaway Car" paralleled many of my own life experiences training as a scientist. Other essays are more personal and address personal freedom and happiness. In the interview she talked about her aversion to marriage having had one bad experience in her youth. She married because the relationship temporally had forced itself in that direction. I know people for whom this had happened. They date. They live together. The relationship is OK or maybe not. After a certain amount of time they marry because it is time, not because they are with the right person. Sometimes they only realize right before the wedding that the marriage will not work but because the invitations have been sent, it is too embarrassing to call it off. Some divorce early. Some go on for years. I think this is a must read for anyone thinking of planning a wedding. She also said in the interview but I haven't gotten to that part of the book that once she let go of marriage as an option she could fully enjoy relationships that were not perfect because she knew that they did not have to go on forever. She was in control always with an eye on the "emergency exit". Highly recommend. Not finished with the book yet but I am sure it is one that I will be sad to finish.