Customer Review

Reviewed in the United States on November 4, 2021
I got this book on audible, because I listen to books on my long commute. The first several chapters of the book are about the author's husband and the story of his suicide after a career in law enforcement. If you are a first responder and you struggle at all with secondary trauma like many of us do, the first few chapters of this book will make you feel horrible. It is grief-laden, slightly codependent, has way too much sensationalism, and pokes blame at people who have been suicidal. I had to stop listening because there was no way I was going to get through my day and stay balanced If I kept listening to all that grief and anger. I hate to think of someone actually struggling with thoughts of suicide who picks up this book and starts from the beginning. I picked it back up again and continued listening (on my way home only!) a few weeks later, just so I could leave an honest review here and warn people. For what it is worth, it does start to improve at about chapter 5 when she stops talking about her story and starts talking about the stories of other people. At that point she starts adding in a little actual information about therapies and organizations that have been effective and the hopeless overwhelming "you're doomed so give up now" tone of the first several chapters eases up. Overall I think there must be better books out there for us to read that don't risk making the situation worse. Maybe if you are a close friend or family of a first responder and you want to find some resources this book could be useful, or maybe if you are just starting your career and you don't already have secondary trauma it could help point you in the right direction. But if you are an old head, I advise you to find another book.
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