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A cautionary tale
Reviewed in the United States on February 5, 2020
It was a courageous book in which the author revealed more about herself than her ex-spouse. She became his caretaker and enabler offering to make doctor's appointments, send him copies of his "lost" drivers' license, make excuses to her children, to teachers and friends about his self-involvement, tardiness, diminished appearance. It is clear to me, (a psychotherapist), that she suffered enormously trying to keep her husband in her children's lives and I think, her own.
Her early family experience shaped her own attachment disorder, (the author goes to great lengths to describe her husband's challenging childhood as a harbinger of his addiction, retrospectively, but does not reflect on her own childhood disappointments and humiliations), separation anxiety, and anxious attachment.
I have empathy for the author and wish her well as she embarks on a new career, with painfully gained insight which will no doubt make her an excellent therapist.