This book isn't just great, it's necessary. So many people are talking about boys -- what they think, what they say, why they do the things they do -- but very few people bothered to ask them directly. Peggy Orenstein did that and the answers she received are equal parts terrifying, enlightening, and essential if we're ever going to positively reframe manhood. Wondering why men belittle women in the locker room, call everything bad "gay," and can't seem to connect with other men? Read this book and find out straight from the source. This should be required reading for everyone--not just boys or parents of boys. Because this impacts all of us, and Orenstein captures it by doing the important work of actually talking to our boys.
Peggy is a fantastic writer with an amazing perspective on changing and growing gender norms. Everyone should read this book even if they think they don't need to. It's informative and thoughtful and so, so helpful in trying to navigate gender dynamics in the new age and help young men everywhere be the best they can be.
Peggy Orenstein has written what is sure to become a literary touchstone of the decade. Her unflinching look inside hookup culture and the world of online porn serves as a wakeup call to parents and educators in the #MeToo era. After chronicling the issues facing girls for 25 years, Orenstein turns her attention to boys, who also suffer--but in different ways--from patriarchal norms and expectations, to their emotional detriment. I couldn't put the book down. As an educational psychologist and consultant, I am thrilled to place this new book at the top of my list of resources I suggest to parents and teachers. "Boys & Sex" is going to change our culture for the better, to the benefit of kids of all genders...and the adults who love them. I could not recommend it more highly!
Peggy Orenstein's "Girls and Sex" (2016) was an eye-opening glimpse into the world of the emergent sexuality of a generation - and it sparked important conversations world-wide. Her new look at "Boys and Sex" offers a similarly potent exploration of how boys think and act at this critical age. Whether you have boys or girls (or if you have a child that is questioning their sexuality) the intimate and careful portrait of these kids in this time is a crucial perspective on parenting in this digital age. A must read - Peggy is the most empathetic journalist possible, and her work looking how kids are growing up right now is important work. A great read with a vital message.
I noticed a few years ago that among boys I’d known most of their lives, by the time they got to junior high, there was only one acceptable way to be a boy. These boys were forced to shoehorn themselves into a narrow box of masculine behavior, and it was so sad to watch. I’ve since seen the studies showing that the boys who most internalize these behaviors are more likely to binge-drink, be in car accidents, suffer depression, and even die by suicide. This book suggests some concrete ways to parent/coach/teach our boys, and help them live happier, healthier lives.
If the idea of discussing sex, relationships, and societal norms around masculinity makes you uncomfortable, imagine how uncomfortable it would be to have to call an attorney to try to get your son out of trouble. Parents, we have to do better for our kids than one quick conversation with vague instructions like “Respect women.” My favorite thing about this book is her empathy toward the boys she interviews. I can’t recommend this book highly enough.
Working with college students, often supporting both women and men throught the conduct process at a university, "Girls and Sex" was a powerful confirmation and critique of what plays out on campuses, college and high schools. The 2016 book provided insights not only to the challenges our young women were confronting, but the ways that we were also failing both boys and girls. Orenstein's latest book gives you the opportunitity to hear from boys themselves and challenges parents, educators and all humans to do a better job in helping our kids to experience the fullness of their own lives - the relationships, the heart breaks, the joy, and all the lessons learned along the way.
For those who are raising boys or who work with boys, this book is essential reading. We know that boys' mental and physical health are at high risk in our current culture, and Orenstein's book goes a long way toward helping boys stay connected to their true selves and to the people close to them. Hearing real stories from real boys--not just theories from academic researchers--makes this book so powerful and effective. If you care about boys and want them to have successful, fulfilling lives, this is a must-read.
Reading Peggy Orenstein has me feeling a little less scared of parenting my two young boys through their teenage years. This is a smart, thoughtful look at the American masculine landscape, and a roadmap for how to navigate it in good faith.
Orenstein has written another very important about how young people navigate sex and relationships today. It should be read by everyone who cares about the health and wellbeing of all boys and girls including parents, educators, social workers, healthcare providers, and public officials. She treats a deeply fraught subject and those interviewed with remarkable compassion and respect. Some stories are hard to hear, all the more reason to pay attention. We can choose to ignore the impact of mass culture, the internet and pornography on young people or we can commit to shaping a society that helps them live with intention, integrity and joy now. I hope the book inspires many needed conversations.