Top positive review
Dr. Ashton has valuable feelings to share that are displayed in pretentious text.
Reviewed in the United States on May 31, 2019
This book described a lot of what I felt (the stigma, the heartbreak for my child) when my husband killed himself almost a year prior to her ex husband. However, my step kids read the will as soon as his body was found. The support I’ve gotten has been minimal compared to her experience, and let’s not forget he was her ex husband, not her husband, so it was different. I still could feel her pain though for her children. Our daughter was 12, now 16 when my husband chose it, and I too call myself a sole parent (she says solo, so similar).
I like this lady’s intent and work ethic despite the fact that she makes it clear her daughter attends a 60K/year boarding school and everyone goes to Columbia (oh, except her daughter who is going to Harvard). I’m not so out of her world, as I have a brother who graduated from Columbia and lives in NYC, was left flush by my husband, but truly this lady isn’t leading the lives of many, as her net worth exceeds 10 million. This book is more for the upper crust, I’d say, and she does not touch on issues the normal widow by suicide deals with daily. After all, one of her problems was getting back to spin class because she was there on the day her ex jumped.
I was turned off by her bragging, her focus on herself, and her basic idealistic life. Despite that, I could hear her heart. Also, she delves into other people who have experienced suicide and I’d have to say despite her riches, feelings are feelings. I’ve felt what she’s felt. I understand all the feelings that go along with suicide and she seems to be able to express those feelings.
So, if you buy this book I’d say be ready for a lot of telling of things you may never get if you’re a widow by suicide (people stepping up to “dad” your kids, a new boyfriend who understands, people supporting your every move) but know you may find something here that will make you feel understood regarding your emotions.
Despite not digging some of her grandiosity, she’s out there trying to make a difference. She was born in a different circle than many, for sure. She a super high achiever also and likes to tell people about that and herself. I’d say that doesn’t negate the value she’s putting into the world with this book. It’s valuable and has helped me with my journey toward healing.
Suicide is a complicated thing. The whys, the hows of the action, the regrets, the deep pain, and those left behind all get mixed together and cause a lot of jumbled feelings. Piece by piece we look at them and maybe one day come to peace.
As a widow by suicide, I think it is my duty to cheer on anyone who tries to help stop suicide and bring understanding to its stigma. This author is doing so in the best way she knows how to do so because it’s her life.