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Loss/grief? Attachment trauma?- AVOID! one sad page, could trigger
Reviewed in the United States on July 28, 2017
I got this hoping it would illustrate a bunch of useful, safe ways to handle stressful feelings for kids. For kids with a history of trauma, or mistrust of adults, or who had losses in early childhood and didn't get to develop healthy self-regulation by example and nurturing, it's a struggle to learn healthy ways to manage strong emotion. This book has a lot of great suggestions- I liked almost every page. BUT- there is NO mention of turning to a caring parent as a way to be comforted or deal with feelings! I realize the book is called I Can Handle It, but one of the main reasons we need parents (and other safe, caring adults) is because their stability and caring help soothe a child, and model appropriate ways to calm down. I was surprised there was NO suggestion such as "I can ask for a hug" There is one HARMFUL page: "I can cry myself to sleep" I almost cried when I read that- no child should have to deal with loss or grief alone, and for children who have experienced loss or a history of trauma, how is that a healthy message? I can't use this book to comfort or coach children who need support in finding ways to deal with strong negative emotions, because of that one page. I bought multiple copies, and will consider maybe tearing that page out. I liked the idea of the book and much of the content, but am seeking something with a healthy message about turning to caring safe adults for appropriate support with anger/grief, and that one page undermines the positives, for me.