Top positive review
Great read, even for the non-religious
Reviewed in the United States on March 21, 2018
As a husband currently confronted with a marital crisis of my own making, I desperately searched Amazon for books that might help me navigate these scary and uncertain times and find my way back to my wife. I quickly found and purchased half a dozen books and have began devouring them, including this one. The description, author biography, low price ($1.99) and large number of 5-star reviews had me quickly clicking "buy now".
As a non-religious person, when I actually began reading this book I was initially very dismayed when I started seeing references to God and biblical scriptures. If I had read some of the low-star reviews that mention this, I probably would not have purchased this....
...and that would have been my great loss. There is so much good information in this book, most of which stands on it's own without the religious content. I finished three of the other six books I purchased before beginning "If He Only Knew", and while the information in this book reinforces a lot of the concepts talked about in the others, the author communicates in a very personal and organic way that I found extremely helpful and comforting, making the information much easier to relate to and absorb. Some of the other books I've read, while also informative and helpful, often seem to be written by those with an academic psychological background which can sometimes feel a bit...clinical...for lack of a better term. As an analogy, while the other books might be perfectly prepared meals from a fine dining establishment, this book feels more like warm comfort food. Both can be appreciated and enjoyed for what they are, and do not take away from the other.
Even if you are non-religious like myself, if you are a married man, you should read this book. If you aren't in crisis with your marriage yet, this book can help you prevent ever reaching that point. For those in crisis like myself, I believe the principles and lessons can absolutely help you find your way back to your partner and marriage if you are willing to put in the effort.
If you can't get past the infrequent religious references to see all the great information presented here, you are still putting yourself and your beliefs first over your spouse. Instead, follow the teaching of Bruce Lee..."Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is essentially your own." Don't get hung up on petty details, do whatever it takes to put your spouse first.