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Bad Advice in Sleep could even cause PPD!
Reviewed in the United States on October 27, 2019
As a new mom this book led me down a path I didn’t intend to go on . Dr Sears view on baby sleep is very unscientific and unrealistic . It glorifies the idea of a family bed, nursing and rocking babies to sleep, which are proven ways to develop poor sleeping habits. It talks about the family bed as it’s something super wonderful and natural and everyone should do it since most people in remote villages all around the world do it and it fails to say that it doesn’t work for some people and that it can come with its share of problems, especially in our modern busy world . As a new mom with a crying newborn, I took the advice to heart and now I have a 7 month old who sleeps in bed with me and wakes up every hour all night long wanting to nurse. I am exhausted and my baby does not know how to fall asleep on his own . I am now turning to sleep experts and reading other books by Tracy Hogg and Harvey Karp to try to teach my little one to sleep better and reverse all the bad habits I fell into by following the advice in this book . What a disservice this book is doing by leading new naive moms down the wrong path. A lot of moms I know who bedshare wake up every hour , 2 or 3 hours to feed or comfort their little ones. If it’s not a problem for you , then go ahead and bedshare and follow the advice of this book. But for most people , it’s not feasible for their busy modern lives, so please read more scientific and realistic books on baby sleep . This book teaches you that you constantly have to be there for your little one, holding them, wearing them and making them sleep on you like they do in most parts of the world. But the truth is, you as a parent need to teach your little one how to self-soothe and build the skills of sleep . Even people in remote villages teach their babies this all over the world . I know this because I have a friend who lives in a remote village and indigenous reservation in Costa Rica whose baby sleeps through the night and right next to her , she doesn’t wake up to nurse him back to sleep. He sleeps through the night - an 8 hour chunk - because she told me she taught him how to do that . So this book is glorifying these village cultures but the truth is , they have their own tricks up their sleeves to help their babies sleep through the night , and so should we.
I have to say that the sleep problems that my baby has and therefore I have has caused me such unecessary heartache, depression, and exhaustion, and I feel it is my duty to warn other moms about this book. What a disservice it is to call your chapter on sleep “Nighttime Parenting”. Parents need to sleep too , and so do babies . We teach them that skill . Of course we shouldn’t lock our babies in a room and make them cry themselves to sleep all night for our convenience. But we also need to help our babies sleep because it’s a learned skill. This book fails to write that.
I never write bad reviews but this is the only one I will write because I can honestly say that following the advice of this book has caused so much heartache and pain in my life I just had to warn other moms about it .