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This House of Grief: The Story of a Murder Trial

This House of Grief: The Story of a Murder Trial

byHelen Garner
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carolynfromoz
4.0 out of 5 starsSad account of a true crime
Reviewed in the United States on January 5, 2016
In 2005 an event occurred that horrified all Australians. Robert Farquharson, estranged from his wife, was returning his three young sons, Jai, Tyler and Bailey, to their mother after an access visit on Father’s Day when his car swerved off the road, through a fence and across a paddock plunging his car into a seven metre deep dam. While he managed to escape and swim to safety his three children drowned. He claimed to have blacked out after a coughing fit and came to as the car was filling with water. Both he and his estranged wife asserted he loved his children and would never hurt them, let them kill them. However, the police were less convinced as several factors didn’t seem right, including the path travelled by the car and Farquharson’s behaviour during and after the accident and he was eventually charged with the murder.

Helen Garner sat through the entire six week trial in 2007 and then an appeal and retrial in 2010 hoping to learn the truth. Was this a dreadful accident or a horrific murder carried out as an act of revenge on his wife for dumping him and taking a new partner? Perhaps it was a planned murder/suicide but Farquharson failed to go through with killing himself? Perhaps it wasn’t premeditated at all but happened in an instant in a fit of rage? Throughout the trial Garner doesn’t take sides, she prevaricates between thinking this can’t have been an accident and feeling sorry for the sad, downtrodden man on trial.

While showing us the human faces of this trial, the accused and his estranged wife, their families, the witnesses, the lawyers and judges Garner takes us through the anatomy of a criminal trial. She carefully describes the way in which evidence is given by witnesses and picked apart by the lawyers with the microscopic examination of tiny details often taking up long stifling days. She further shows us the human side of the trial as she watches the unspoken interactions between the accused and his family, listens to the banter and opinions of the journalists and observes the jury’s response to the witnesses and evidence.

Did the jury make the right decision? You’ll have to read the book to see what you think. In the end however, no amount of punishment or retribution can make up for the death of three innocent young boys. As Garner herself concludes

”Every stranger grieves for them. Every stranger’s heart is broken. The children’s fate is our legitimate concern. They are ours to mourn. They belong to all of us now.”
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2.0 out of 5 starsA Trial
Reviewed in the United States on January 9, 2022
Stunning and immensely readable. A very thoughtful record of a trial . Is the father of the children guilty of murder?
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carolynfromoz
4.0 out of 5 stars Sad account of a true crime
Reviewed in the United States on January 5, 2016
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In 2005 an event occurred that horrified all Australians. Robert Farquharson, estranged from his wife, was returning his three young sons, Jai, Tyler and Bailey, to their mother after an access visit on Father’s Day when his car swerved off the road, through a fence and across a paddock plunging his car into a seven metre deep dam. While he managed to escape and swim to safety his three children drowned. He claimed to have blacked out after a coughing fit and came to as the car was filling with water. Both he and his estranged wife asserted he loved his children and would never hurt them, let them kill them. However, the police were less convinced as several factors didn’t seem right, including the path travelled by the car and Farquharson’s behaviour during and after the accident and he was eventually charged with the murder.

Helen Garner sat through the entire six week trial in 2007 and then an appeal and retrial in 2010 hoping to learn the truth. Was this a dreadful accident or a horrific murder carried out as an act of revenge on his wife for dumping him and taking a new partner? Perhaps it was a planned murder/suicide but Farquharson failed to go through with killing himself? Perhaps it wasn’t premeditated at all but happened in an instant in a fit of rage? Throughout the trial Garner doesn’t take sides, she prevaricates between thinking this can’t have been an accident and feeling sorry for the sad, downtrodden man on trial.

While showing us the human faces of this trial, the accused and his estranged wife, their families, the witnesses, the lawyers and judges Garner takes us through the anatomy of a criminal trial. She carefully describes the way in which evidence is given by witnesses and picked apart by the lawyers with the microscopic examination of tiny details often taking up long stifling days. She further shows us the human side of the trial as she watches the unspoken interactions between the accused and his family, listens to the banter and opinions of the journalists and observes the jury’s response to the witnesses and evidence.

Did the jury make the right decision? You’ll have to read the book to see what you think. In the end however, no amount of punishment or retribution can make up for the death of three innocent young boys. As Garner herself concludes

”Every stranger grieves for them. Every stranger’s heart is broken. The children’s fate is our legitimate concern. They are ours to mourn. They belong to all of us now.”
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4.0 out of 5 stars Impressive crime novel; realistic courtroom scenes
Reviewed in the United States on October 3, 2015
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In Victoria, Australia after a Father's Day visit in 2005, Robert Farquharson drove his car into a dam. His three young children did not survive but Farquaharson did. Within a few days he was charged with their murder. In this impressive book, Garner gives us a courtroom drama that takes us into the courtroom during his trial(s.)

That this was a heartbreaking true-life tragedy was beyond dispute, but the question all along was whether or not it was a tragic accident or whether the defendant knowingly went into the water as some sort of suicide attempt or desire to punish his soon-to-be ex-wife, Cindy Gambino.

Helen Garner takes us inside the courtroom and she brilliantly makes us go back and forth in our own opinions about what happened. She does this in part by having us read the testimony of any given prosecution or defense witness and has us convinced of something and then has us follow the the cross-examination where our opinions change once again. It's so impressive and as a former courtroom trial attorney, I can tell you it's very impressive and real.

It's so hard to think that a man - especially one who adored his children - would kill them. But you also know it's possible. The author really helps us understand what the jury must've gone through making their difficult decision and how trials can seemingly go in the favor of one side only to change momentum and lean towards the other.

Really terrific. I thought there were some slower bits when I was tempted to skim when the author goes into details such as with the testimony of dueling experts - but that's what helps makes this so real and shows why it's so hard for us to form an opinion about what really happened.
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Wayne Robinson
4.0 out of 5 stars Readable account of a tragedy.
Reviewed in the United States on August 30, 2014
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On Fathers' Day, 2005, a car driven by a father of 3 young sons plunges into a dam in country Victoria drowning the 3 children. The father was returning the children to his estranged wife after an access visit.

Was it a tragic accident, as the father claimed, due to an episode of cough syncope? Was it a failed murder-suicide? Was it a deliberate murder, in order to get back at and punish the wife? Or was it something else?

If I'd read about the tragedy, then I'd subsequently forgotten about it. As a result, I was able to approach it as a mystery, without knowing the outcome.

Helen Garner has provided a readable account - and managed to convey the tedium of the trial, without actually writing anything tedious.

It's not about guilt or innocence (at the end I'm still not certain whether the father was guilty or not), but about being found guilty or being found not guilty.

I liked the author's quote about juries not weighing evidence, but judging character (which may have happened here - and definitely in the Azaria Chamberlain case).
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David P. Chandler
5.0 out of 5 stars A masterful, very distressing book
Reviewed in the United States on September 12, 2014
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Helen Garner, a superb writer, is Australia's "answer" to Janet Malcolm, and this rich, intense and very disturbing book, like some of Malcolm's, takes us to places in human behavior and the human psyche that we might prefer to avoid-- and she does this with no judgmental disdain .
Several years ago a 37 year old father of three drove his 3 small boys , suddenly, into a deep farm- pond in rural Australia. He survived. They didn't. He was separated from the children's mother, and distressed by this. He was tried for murder, and was eventually sentenced to many years in prison. Garner asks us to consider what happened, and why things happened as they did. As a participant-observer, \she followed the meandering trial through the judicial system, which at the same time tried to be fair and was intensely competitive. A masterful, empathic, and very distressing book.
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Cornelia(CONNIE) MacErlean author of "Baggage"
4.0 out of 5 stars Helen Garner shows her intelligence and preparedness in understanding the ...
Reviewed in the United States on August 31, 2014
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Helen Garner shows her intelligence and preparedness in understanding the structure of family, social and legal complexities. Her descriptions of character involved on all sides leaves this reader interested and aware of more detail than any newspaper report could have done. Her perseverance dominates and moves the reader on to a planned unbiased structure of the story. It was obviously not a win/win situation for anyone involved including the legal representatives. The consideration of the value of having a jury of unqualified people to make such a momentous decision in the company of a qualified judge whose mistakes send the guilty party to another trial is left open for consideration.
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Samarth Singh
4.0 out of 5 stars Careful narrative to a harrowing case
Reviewed in the United States on January 6, 2017
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An honest courtroom drama where a disguised truth is sitting firmly on the court bench next to you and the author—while the legal process goes in roundabouts looking for it. Helen Garner reveals to us the trippings of human perception in the court pit—the gap between sense of self and how we actually project it.
In taking us through the trial of Robert Farquharson—who drove and drowned his three kids into a dam—she unravels the workings of a court in presence of thin evidence and obese emotions.
There is much to be wanted from the book, more on Cindy, Farquharson's ex-wife; less on the belaboring of the case by the defense lawyer; even less on the yellow tracks. And yet, that is precisely what the justice system leaves us with—more or less of a kaleidoscope wanting to resolve itself into a perfect image.
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frangipani
4.0 out of 5 stars Heartbreaking
Reviewed in the United States on October 24, 2014
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Icould not in all honesty say that I loved this book, because the events that took place were so heartbreaking.
How could a ' human being ' murder his three precious children in such dreadful circumstances.
Helen Garner has written a compelling account of the consequences of a dreadful crime, and yet because
she is a talented writer and has done the research so well, she brings questions from the defence that clearly
compel us to ask ourselves if this crime was premeditated or was it done in a fit of rage. Either way he
destroyed the lives of many people. We can read the book and in most cases we will then forget it. For Cindy
and her family it is a life sentence of grief.
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Pop culture man
5.0 out of 5 stars Great writing that will seize your mind
Reviewed in the United States on September 2, 2014
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This is a haunting meditation on a shocking crime. Garner draws you into the terror of the night when three children lost their lives and asks you to consider all the possible scenarios: premeditated murder, failed murder-suicide or accident. There's no certainty from the evidence and the accused man's wretchedness and despair is evident throughout the trial. Garner's writing skill and novelist's eye illuminate the trial such that it will live in your mind long after you close the book. This is one of the finest true crime books, one of the most piercing analyses of a criminal trial you will ever read.
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2.0 out of 5 stars A Trial
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4.0 out of 5 stars Every change in the atmosphere is conveyed with great detail. As both Helen & Lex Lasery observed
Reviewed in the United States on November 3, 2014
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Helen Garner is a master observer & a meticulous researcher. She needs a medal just for having sat through the trial not once but twice The book is totally absorbing. Each scene is gripping as she leaves no stone unturned. You feel so much a part of the lives of all the characters. Every change in the atmosphere is conveyed with great detail. As both Helen & Lex Lasery observed, only Rob knows what really happened that night. He was a simple soul, definitely just an average Joe unable to cope with his wife's rejection. I don't think he meant to drown his children. I have no doubt he loved them. I don't think he realized how deep the dam was. Having said that, his reaction at the dam was definitely not one of a loving father no matter what the expert witness for the defence maintained. Were the subsequent coughing fits contrived? And yet, if he thought he was going to give his wife a bit of a fright, she would have made sure he had no further access to the kids. Why wouldn't he see her when in prison when she was still totally supportive of him? I truly think he believed & probably still does that he was innocent. Whilst I really enjoyed the book all the unanswered questions are driving me nuts.
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