Top critical review
Offers a highly skewed perspective
Reviewed in the United States on June 26, 2020
Authors Orlov and Kohlenberger seem to live in a La La Land of ADHD denial where the worst possible outcomes of the problem behaviors associated with AHHD are some hurt feelings and the occasional inconvenience. The authors seem either unwilling or unable to address the fact that sometimes these behaviors have serious negative consequences for both parties in a relationship.
A lot of the book is spent justifying problem behavior and it strongly discourages any accountability.
Their approach to "resolving" issues is seems to imply that the person with ADHD should be coddled at all times and the utmost care needs to be taken with their feelings, but that the non ADHD person needs to be infinitely patient and understanding and never ever ever be angry hurt frustrated or disappointed no matter how disruptive the other party's behavior is.
The ADHD person is never to be told they are wrong and if the non ADHD person sets any boundaries or limits they are controlling and critical.
A very few insights here and there are helpful but they all rely on the Non ADHD person being totally at the mercy of the whim of the ADHD person.
The book feels very one sided and is very discouraging if your relationship has serious problems that need to be addressed