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The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

byDaniel J. Siegel
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Eli G
5.0 out of 5 starsUnderstandable, truly useful, and based on modern, real, science.
Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2018
I won't bother with the book details, they're well covered in other reviews, so I'll just say that I really can't recommend these enough.

Long story short, "The Whole Brain Child" and it's two companion books by the same authors, "No Drama Discipline", and more recently "The Yes Brain" really have been the most useful parenting books I've encountered. (they are loosely coupled, so you can read any of them individually, in any order)

Of the 40 or so books (and zillion articles, studies, etc.) I gobbled up when we first found out we'd be expecting, these are the ones that really stand out, and that I can most hold up and say "I'm a better parent today than I otherwise would be, because I read this."

These aren't read-once books for me - I still flip through them once in a while, as a refresher, three years later, and will probably continue to revisit them well into the future.

I also make it a habit to gift hardcover copies of all three books to anyone we know who's expecting, along with an offer to buy them the e-book versions instead, if they'd rather have those.

Even the best parents have room for improvement, and I can't really imagine anyone reading any of these without finding something that will add to their parenting skills.

Bottom line, if you believe parenting is a skill to be honed, if you want to parent thoughtfully and intentionally rather than just echoing your own parents methods (which may have been just fine), if you want your parenting to be in tune with the facts and empirical evidence provided by modern psychology and brain-science (which has improved greatly over the last 20 years or so), and if you want a better understanding of how your child's mind works, how you can best guide that mind for long-term success, then please don't miss these books.

What else can I say? Seriously, just buy the book - buy all three, if you can.

Your kids will probably never thank you for reading them, but they should =o)
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3.0 out of 5 starsPoorly organized book, but in a nut shell: Calm, Teach/Redirect
Reviewed in the United States on August 20, 2019
CONNECT = Help calm the kid down, sooth, safe, loved and supportive. Use empathic voice so they feel understood and listened to. Soft facial expressions. Stay at or below eye level. Gently touch them. Acknowledge feelings as real and important, even if you don’t feel they are. “You really wanted to watch another TV show. Are you feeling sad or mad? Yes, that is hard. I get it. I’m right here and understand.” Smile. The child only moves back to balance and regulation after the experience and they believe your empathy and connection at a deep level. Kids misbehave because they cannot control their emotions, not because they do NOT want to. The behavior is the message that they don’t have the skills that is causing the frustration or anger.

TEACH/REDIRECT = (The child MUST be calm before starting this.) Explain what happened, or let the kid do so, discover together. Redirect toward better behavior and decision-making, and talk about other strategies to try next time a similar situation comes up. Hold them accountable for their behavior, including making things right and engaging in appropriate behavior/repairs. Have a “Re-Do”. Success relies heavily on our being calm and attuned to his feelings. Teach them that they can tolerate discomfort. Show them and tell them you have complete faith in their ability. Children must always be held accountable and respectful even if the kid is stuck in bad feelings. You can stop destructive behavior and remove the child before you teach/redirect. Do not focus on punishment but on teaching. Teach kids to repair after conflict-teach them to be responsible.

LEARN to CONTROL ANGER = What are other BETTER ways they can express that anger. Teach them to become aware the moment when they get upset, pause and then use calming techniques. There is nothing wrong with getting upset, it is normal. How we express that anger is important. And how quickly we calm ourselves down is important. Teach them to use calming techniques: put hand on stomach and heart and listen to it and calm both down. Slow breathing. Count to ten. Have a cigarette. Body awareness.
 
Roll play trigger situations with your child can develop skills. Teach them resilience: the ability to bounce back when life’s inevitable problems and struggles arise Roll play or play games so the child loses, and get the kids to use these skills then. Practice small frustrations and move to more difficult situations. Know the triggers that cause your child to imbalance. Notice how long it takes for the child to calm down. Recognize and congratulate small accomplishments. Let them wrestle with indecision, discomfort, discouragement and disappointment. Do not rescue them from these, our job is to walk them through their difficult moments with connection and empathy, to be active participants in the problem-solving. If we push them too hard before they are ready it can backfire, making them more fearful.

Kids need play time. Avoid excessive electronics! Kids need connection/game time with family/friends-critical for their emotional and neurological success. Kids need physical time-aerobically. Get your children into many social interactions, very important for human brain development and health-for the rest of their life-even as an adult. Long term isolation is very unhealthy. Constant hours of TV or internet watching or reading books for hours on end is unhealthy. Stay connected socially.

Withdrawal – Stress behavior. Due to social contact, new situations, feeling uneasy, lack of self-confidence. Calm, reassure and redirect. Roll play for practice. Listen to what is NOT said. Body language.

Empathy: Understand the perspective of another, help or take action to make things better. Ask questions like “Why do you think that baby is crying?” or “That woman wasn’t very nice to us, was she? Do you think something happened that made her feel mad today?” Teach kids to recognize other people’s point of view. Roll play. Avoid, “You should care more about…” Bring attention to victims with your children, discuss the event or situation. Teach the child to apologize empathically, not just “I’m sorry.” But “I can see how you must feel sad that I pushed you down the stairs and that was very scary for your, I am sorry and won’t do that again.” Children are selfish, self-centered and can be taught to be caring and compassionate for others, it takes time and practice. Do not overact to a selfish child. Live in the now, correct in the now, not something that happened hours, days, weeks ago. Let that go and only “live in the now”. Children will relapse into being selfish. Never tell a child, “You will never learn to…”

Parents who come from bad relationships/families can learn and use these techniques on their children and on themselves. Parents can and should learn to use empathy toward everyone including themselves. Modeling the empathy to the child is very important. The brain changes through repeat.

Sound decision making – get your kids to do this on their own as much as possible by enabling choice. Young children get choice between two good decisions, but keep pushing dilemmas to challenge them. Why did you make that choice? Why did you feel that way? Why don’t you think you’ll do well?

Recognize and celebrate all the small successes in life everyday!!!!
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3.0 out of 5 stars Poorly organized book, but in a nut shell: Calm, Teach/Redirect
Reviewed in the United States on August 20, 2019
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CONNECT = Help calm the kid down, sooth, safe, loved and supportive. Use empathic voice so they feel understood and listened to. Soft facial expressions. Stay at or below eye level. Gently touch them. Acknowledge feelings as real and important, even if you don’t feel they are. “You really wanted to watch another TV show. Are you feeling sad or mad? Yes, that is hard. I get it. I’m right here and understand.” Smile. The child only moves back to balance and regulation after the experience and they believe your empathy and connection at a deep level. Kids misbehave because they cannot control their emotions, not because they do NOT want to. The behavior is the message that they don’t have the skills that is causing the frustration or anger.

TEACH/REDIRECT = (The child MUST be calm before starting this.) Explain what happened, or let the kid do so, discover together. Redirect toward better behavior and decision-making, and talk about other strategies to try next time a similar situation comes up. Hold them accountable for their behavior, including making things right and engaging in appropriate behavior/repairs. Have a “Re-Do”. Success relies heavily on our being calm and attuned to his feelings. Teach them that they can tolerate discomfort. Show them and tell them you have complete faith in their ability. Children must always be held accountable and respectful even if the kid is stuck in bad feelings. You can stop destructive behavior and remove the child before you teach/redirect. Do not focus on punishment but on teaching. Teach kids to repair after conflict-teach them to be responsible.

LEARN to CONTROL ANGER = What are other BETTER ways they can express that anger. Teach them to become aware the moment when they get upset, pause and then use calming techniques. There is nothing wrong with getting upset, it is normal. How we express that anger is important. And how quickly we calm ourselves down is important. Teach them to use calming techniques: put hand on stomach and heart and listen to it and calm both down. Slow breathing. Count to ten. Have a cigarette. Body awareness.
 
Roll play trigger situations with your child can develop skills. Teach them resilience: the ability to bounce back when life’s inevitable problems and struggles arise Roll play or play games so the child loses, and get the kids to use these skills then. Practice small frustrations and move to more difficult situations. Know the triggers that cause your child to imbalance. Notice how long it takes for the child to calm down. Recognize and congratulate small accomplishments. Let them wrestle with indecision, discomfort, discouragement and disappointment. Do not rescue them from these, our job is to walk them through their difficult moments with connection and empathy, to be active participants in the problem-solving. If we push them too hard before they are ready it can backfire, making them more fearful.

Kids need play time. Avoid excessive electronics! Kids need connection/game time with family/friends-critical for their emotional and neurological success. Kids need physical time-aerobically. Get your children into many social interactions, very important for human brain development and health-for the rest of their life-even as an adult. Long term isolation is very unhealthy. Constant hours of TV or internet watching or reading books for hours on end is unhealthy. Stay connected socially.

Withdrawal – Stress behavior. Due to social contact, new situations, feeling uneasy, lack of self-confidence. Calm, reassure and redirect. Roll play for practice. Listen to what is NOT said. Body language.

Empathy: Understand the perspective of another, help or take action to make things better. Ask questions like “Why do you think that baby is crying?” or “That woman wasn’t very nice to us, was she? Do you think something happened that made her feel mad today?” Teach kids to recognize other people’s point of view. Roll play. Avoid, “You should care more about…” Bring attention to victims with your children, discuss the event or situation. Teach the child to apologize empathically, not just “I’m sorry.” But “I can see how you must feel sad that I pushed you down the stairs and that was very scary for your, I am sorry and won’t do that again.” Children are selfish, self-centered and can be taught to be caring and compassionate for others, it takes time and practice. Do not overact to a selfish child. Live in the now, correct in the now, not something that happened hours, days, weeks ago. Let that go and only “live in the now”. Children will relapse into being selfish. Never tell a child, “You will never learn to…”

Parents who come from bad relationships/families can learn and use these techniques on their children and on themselves. Parents can and should learn to use empathy toward everyone including themselves. Modeling the empathy to the child is very important. The brain changes through repeat.

Sound decision making – get your kids to do this on their own as much as possible by enabling choice. Young children get choice between two good decisions, but keep pushing dilemmas to challenge them. Why did you make that choice? Why did you feel that way? Why don’t you think you’ll do well?

Recognize and celebrate all the small successes in life everyday!!!!
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Eli G
5.0 out of 5 stars Understandable, truly useful, and based on modern, real, science.
Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2018
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I won't bother with the book details, they're well covered in other reviews, so I'll just say that I really can't recommend these enough.

Long story short, "The Whole Brain Child" and it's two companion books by the same authors, "No Drama Discipline", and more recently "The Yes Brain" really have been the most useful parenting books I've encountered. (they are loosely coupled, so you can read any of them individually, in any order)

Of the 40 or so books (and zillion articles, studies, etc.) I gobbled up when we first found out we'd be expecting, these are the ones that really stand out, and that I can most hold up and say "I'm a better parent today than I otherwise would be, because I read this."

These aren't read-once books for me - I still flip through them once in a while, as a refresher, three years later, and will probably continue to revisit them well into the future.

I also make it a habit to gift hardcover copies of all three books to anyone we know who's expecting, along with an offer to buy them the e-book versions instead, if they'd rather have those.

Even the best parents have room for improvement, and I can't really imagine anyone reading any of these without finding something that will add to their parenting skills.

Bottom line, if you believe parenting is a skill to be honed, if you want to parent thoughtfully and intentionally rather than just echoing your own parents methods (which may have been just fine), if you want your parenting to be in tune with the facts and empirical evidence provided by modern psychology and brain-science (which has improved greatly over the last 20 years or so), and if you want a better understanding of how your child's mind works, how you can best guide that mind for long-term success, then please don't miss these books.

What else can I say? Seriously, just buy the book - buy all three, if you can.

Your kids will probably never thank you for reading them, but they should =o)
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J. Pendergrass
5.0 out of 5 stars Must read for ALL Parents
Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2018
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I have read Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline and Parenting from the Insight Out. The Yes Brain expands on those books, but even more exciting has sections for us as parents to reflect on ourselves. I really love the exercises and cartoons, which engage my 4 year old. Definitely worth the read to help build resilience and courage! Easy to see where I can improve on seeing, hearing and being there for my kid, and nuture their inner spark. (And while working our way thru tantrums).
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5.0 out of 5 stars Must read for ALL Parents
Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2018
I have read Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline and Parenting from the Insight Out. The Yes Brain expands on those books, but even more exciting has sections for us as parents to reflect on ourselves. I really love the exercises and cartoons, which engage my 4 year old. Definitely worth the read to help build resilience and courage! Easy to see where I can improve on seeing, hearing and being there for my kid, and nuture their inner spark. (And while working our way thru tantrums).
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Dezi
5.0 out of 5 stars Get the series! You’ll be glad you did!
Reviewed in the United States on April 8, 2022
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I love this as the last one in t w series. The whole brain child and no drama discipline book has changed our life’s highly recommend getting all three plus his parent book!
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Evan A longfield
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome Resource for Parents and Kids
Reviewed in the United States on June 14, 2019
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I’m not even finished reading the book, and I already have so much insight into how my young kids think and ways to communicate better with them. We use the Red/Blue/Green to discuss our emotions frequently. My 5 year old especially seems to really like the explanation of his brain: how it works and the ways it’s growing.
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Carol C.
4.0 out of 5 stars Concrete, easy-to-read guidance on how to foster curiosity, resilience, and empathy in your child
Reviewed in the United States on September 14, 2017
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As the mother of a 13 year old, I was delighted to have an opportunity to read this book. Who wouldn't want to foster courage, curiosity, and resilience in her child? The book did not disappoint. It is well-written, insightful, and very easy to read. The authors provide plenty of anecdotal examples based on experiences with their clients, and is full of entertaining, relatable cartoon drawings depicting various scenarios.

Much of the advice seems to be tailored at dealing with younger children (elementary school age), but the guidance applies to older children as well. The authors remind us that a child's brain is not yet fully formed, so he is, at times, incapable of controlling his emotions or responses to situations. When a child acts or responds in a certain way, rather than criticizing and condemning the behavior, we should seek to understand it, and help the child learn how to cope better to perhaps respond differently in the future. The focus is on empathetic parenting and is a reminder for the need to be patient when parenting.

The authors discuss three "zones" -- a red zone, full of rage and anger and frustration; a blue zone, which is detached and checked out; and a green zone -- the good place to be. They talk about figuring out your child's tolerance for conflict and steps you can take to broaden the green zone, or help your child move back into the green zone when they are angry or scared.

To promote resilience, the authors recommend that you shower your children with the four S's -- make them feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure. You want to create a safe environment where they can try new things, express concerns without negative repercussions, responding to their anger with calmness and understanding rather than being angry because they are angry. It's hard. It's really hard. Young teenagers especially can say some pretty mean things toward their parents -- but I'll just keep reminding myself that the teenaged brain is not yet fully developed.

As the authors point out, people who are caring and empathetic are generally less frustrated, less angry, less judgmental --- and no doubt happier in life. The book gives guidance on how to help nurture your child's ability to react with empathy to others. By encouraging and children to be empathetic using the language and guidance provide, we can actually help rewire our children's brains. There's a lot here about neuroplasticity and the ability to change how we're wired. It sounds promising --

All of this is easier said than done. I was pumped up with all sorts of ideas on how to promote positivity after reading this delightful book. But reading a book is no guarantee of successful implementation of the techniques therein -- and that is easier said than done. I'm working on it.
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Anonymous Mom of Three
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful book
Reviewed in the United States on February 1, 2019
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I would recommend this book to any parent struggling with handling their kids' tantrums. The scenarios provided in the book are very relatable. The book provided an insightful approach to tackling these issues which will build a strong foundation of trust and love with your child.

The "yes brain" concept promoted in the book helps parents to realize that in order for kids to grow up fulfilled and happy, they just need to be kids. It is important to find balance between academics and everything else in life.
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5.0 out of 5 stars useful read for a family vacation with grumpy kids
Reviewed in the United States on July 3, 2019
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Great tools for understanding and redirecting misbehavior. Halfway through the book I a!ready starting parenting better! It's also a book with sections you could read with your child
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3.0 out of 5 stars The tips are good and he is one of my favorite parenting experts
Reviewed in the United States on April 19, 2018
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I'm a huge Fan Siegel fan and this book just is not on the same level as his other stuff. It constantly paraphrased and mentioned his other books. I bought this for original content, not as a review of his previous content. The tips are good and he is one of my favorite parenting experts. I just wish there was newer, more original content.
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Donna
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book
Reviewed in the United States on June 24, 2019
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