Top positive review
A great overview of the common issues and problems in marriages
Reviewed in the United States on August 18, 2019
While I write this, the most popular review and most helpful review is by somebody who says that this book is encouraging the reader to stay in an abusive, toxic relationship. It also says that it is heavily religious. Both of these statements are exaggerations.
First, as you can see from one of the photos, Dr Chapman says quite clearly that he is not so naive to suggest that divorce can be eliminated from the human landscape. He just believes that it should be the last possible alternative. Everybody should make a big effort to reconcile differences. He believes that far too many couples have opted for divorce too soon and a too great of a price. But he is not saying that you should stay in abusive relationship no matter what. However, I would agree that he is heavily in favor of reconciliation.
Second, while he is religious and does bring it up occasionally, it is certainly not super religious. I'm an atheist. And his mentioning of religion every now and then did not irritate me.
I took a photo of the table of contents. I hope it is helpful at seeing how the book is organized.
The only thing that did bother me about the book is that he really pushes hard for getting a counselor. Nearly all his stories involve a counselor, and he definitely promotes that. This is understandable, given that he is a counselor and probably has an army of them who work for him. I would have liked to see a bit more practical advice for each of the problems that he mentions.
Still, at the end of every chapter, he does have a section called for further help. In it, he gives books and other resources to help you delve deeper into the topic, perhaps avoiding a counselor if you can't afford one.