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More than a Body doesn't actually believe I'm more than my body
Reviewed in the United States on January 2, 2021
I was hoping for an empowering, well researched guide to unraveling the toxic ways I talk to myself. Especially as a mother of daughters, I was looking for a pathway to seeing myself as "more than a body" so I could set a better example for them than I have been.
But I only made it about 50 pages in before I returned it.
I should've known when the introduction to a book that is supposed to be about how we shouldn't define ourselves by our outside casing started off by grouping me based on my skin color and weight. *Make sure you know, white people, that you don't have it as hard as other ethnicities. And thin have it easier than fat. And able bodied have it easier than those with less abilties. Yes, I know we said we were going to tell you how to stop defining yourself based on your appearance, but first let's peg everyone in the correct victimhood spot first.* It read like it had been through 20 different focus groups to make sure it appeased all the currently trending victim types.
I kept reading because maybe that was just the intro and they had to get it out of the way, but nope. Every few paragraphs I had to be reminded of whether I was priveleged over certain groups or not. Also loved when they paused to let me know all men will never experience the objectification women do and so could never understand the work women need to do in this space. Once again, taking entire swaths of people and grouping them based on only one identifying physical factor. As a mom of a teenage son I can say this is not true. The objectification culture takes no prisoners and men can suffer just as much appearance-based bullying and shaming.
We got to follow that up with a heavy dose of hopelessness: I was told the culture would never change, prejudice would never abate and men will never stop objectifying women. I have to do the work I need to inside, but never hope for changes outside. Truly inspiring.
So yeah. After so many incidents of a book that was supposed to pull me out of my body-focused shame shaming people for their bodies, I decided this wasn't what I was looking for and moved on.