Top positive review
5.0 out of 5 starsThis book was very helpful for my recovery
Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on January 18, 2023
This book was very very good. I was married for 24 years to a man I loved very much. I ended my marriage in 2008. The love bomb described by this author, was exactly my situation. After several months of being married, my handsome,loving, successful husband, started to change. I will never forget the first time he gaslighted me. I was 22 years old just married. I came from a very loving Italian Family, so I was shocked when we were making dinner together, my husband criticized me over and over how I was not cutting the onion correctly. He didn’t kindly try to show me his way of cutting an onion, like my brother or parents would have done. He just made me feel like I didn’t know what I was doing, put me down several times and I started to cry. He didn’t seemed phased that he hurt my feelings. He didn’t care that I walked away and sat on the couch crying. He finished making dinner and acted like nothing happened. This is just one of many many incidents that became worse, as his alcoholism progressed , and turned to physical abuse over the years. This book has helped me very much. I have flashbacks and dreams of his gaslighting ways. I kept this to myself for years, and the only safe way out of this marriage was to share with a few close friends and family. These wonderful people knew I was not crazy, they helped me file for a restraining order/serve him with divorce papers ,he never ever expected from me. I have been in professional counseling since 2008. I read this book in one night. This author especially helped me when he wrote about how to practice radical forgiveness, reminding me to cut ties with my past, and stay strong enough to keep moving forward, knowing everything that happened in that marriage was not my fault, I am not crazy, ignorant or helpless. Thanks to this author Don Barlow and my great family/friends, I know I am smart and a good person. I will save this book to read again in the future.
